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I struggle with this, also. We live in an area that isn't as diverse as I would like it to be. We've considered moving to an area that is a little more diverse just so she can be connected to her culture on a more regular basis. A loving home is obviously an important aspect of raising a child, but it is also important to help your child embrace her race and know her culture and heritage. If you do move to an area that isn't as diverse as you may like, you may just have to get creative. Start networking now, look for other transracial adoptive families, attend black churches, etc. Good luck![url=http://blackgirlwhitefamily.blogspot.com/]Finding your Inner Black Girl in a White Family[/url]

In my honest opinion, no. You're not. It's really important for our kids not to be isolated. Just think about a time when you were an "only." The only white person in the room. (Assuming that you are white.) Or the only woman in the room. Imagine that being your day-to-day experience at home, at school, at the park . . . In my opinion, that's too much for any kid to deal with in any kind of healthy way. It's an awful lot for us to ask of them.

Well said, Oak. This is how I have to explain it to my mother. Over and over and over. :grr:

My husband and I are both white. So is my son (who was also adopted and his race was unknown till after his birth) so it is very important to me that my daughter be around other kids that look like her and other AA adults that can set good examples (coaches, teachers, etc). Thank you guys :rolleyes:

We moved because the area where we lived before wasn't diverse enough. It was horrible there and our kids weren't even school age yet. I thought it couldn't matter because of our extended family and friends, but it did. We had to move

Our ad is multi racial and 8 years old. It is really important to her that there are other kids and adults around that look like her. Lucky for us we move to a semi diverse area. She also has a bio brother that was adopted by a white couple. They moved to an all white area. About third grade he finally lost it. He finally told his parents how much he hated being the only brown kid in his school. He held it in a long time. And when finally asked why he didn't talk about it sooner, he told his mom because I knew it would make you cry. It has been rough but they are getting threw it. He did ask his parents if they moved again if they would move some place that has kids that look like him.