Question for bmom..

Every mother-to-be who is considering adoption for her child will be different. I did not get to pick my son's parents, the agency did. I only got to have veto power if I did not like their selection. I just got to see their photo, and know about 5 things about them (age, cultural background, what they did for a living, a bit about their personalities and their family life). Nowadays, things are so different, but my take is that most mothers would want you to be yourself, and talk about all the important aspects of your lives. I would definitely want to know about religion, lifestyle, personality, hobbies, anything that gives a good picture of who you are, both individually and as a couple. I think it's important to just be you and be honest about who you are, rather than try to twist your profile into something you think she wants to see or hear (not that you are doing that, but just saying).

Every Birth Mom is different and we all looked for different things. I lived in birth mother housing for a few months and got to know 5 other girls that had also made adoption plan. To all of us we all choose families that had one parent that could be home with the child. I could have put him in daycare 50 hours a week but I wanted more for him. To me the most important things were; both parents had to have graduated college as I worked really hard to finish school I wanted my son to have that same importance on school. Next I wanted people that lived healthy active lives. Nutrition is so important and is learned so young that it was a big deal for me. Make sure you have good pictures. I know it sounds superficial but after looking at 100's of profiles you have to make gut choices and sometimes pictures are all you have to go on.

Thank you! It was exactly what I did. Honesty is the main principle on the profile. As we would like to see if we were the birth parents. Thanks for your help!

Thank you so much for your response! The gut choices are really the final I guess since women are so emotionally more advanced than me and her instinct and intuition really plays a big role on her decision. In the other hand this choice is not done by accident, we all know that God has already a plan for all of us. Thank you so much for your help and much love.

hi i have just found out i'm 6 weeks pregnant, iv been on the internet 3 hours now and still have not found anything that tells me how to start process for an open adoption?? help

Welcome to the forum. Congrats on your pregnancy. I have no experience, as we are an adoptive parent. I know someone here will have great advise for you. Please ladies, help jazzy. All the best to you.

Look up on line agencies, or look for an agency near where you are. They can help you with that. :-) Good luck!

I'd love to hear more answers to this question. I always love to hear all the different responses of what made emoms choose adoptive parents. Gives us hope I guess because there are so many differing answers. Jazzy, you have lots of time so do not rush into anything. Make sure you speak to a lot of people including other moms who have already placed to make sure this is the right decision for you and your child and if it is make sure you work with reputable professionals. Unfortunately, they are not all as they seem :(

Jazzy- I'd say you have a few options- Look for an agency near you or on the internet- they will help you not only make sure this is an option that is best for you but also help you through the process. Or, you could look for an attorney that is an adoption attorney in your area. Same idea... Or, you could look for online ads or even in the newspaper depending on where you live - people place ads that they are looking to adopt all the time where I live. There are hundreds of youtube videos of families waiting to adopt. We considered it but went with an agency because we liked that they took care of everything not only for us but also for the expecting moms as well. Good luck with everything!

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