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Hello everyone. I need some help! Any advice you can offer would be greatly appreciated!
I have been married for almost 9yrs. My daughter turned 9 in May. I got with my husband when she was 2 weeks old and he has taken care of her ever since!!! Her biological dad has never had anything to do with her! He's never seen her even once! She doesn't even know my husband isn't her biological dad, he is all that she knows. I know some of you may not agree with that, but when her bio dad is so screwed up on drugs, he doesn't have any teeth left, I'm sure many of you wouldn't want your child to know that, especially at the age of 9. She is too young to understand and yes, I will tell her the truth when she is old enough to comprehend it. Anyway, so my husband wants to adopt her. He has always wanted to adopt her. So I searched for her bio dad online for months and finally came across an email address the other day. I emailed him asking him if he would still be willing to give up his rights (since that's all he's ever wanted me to do was give her up for adoption) and he says there's a POSSIBILITY he may go along with it! Seriously, it's been over 9 years and he's never even met her! He was given supervised visitation rights when she was a year old and he never showed up for any of the visits so the judge gave me everything I asked for. All he got was visitation upon reasonable time and reasonable notice to me. He never once contacted me and now he's saying there's a possibility he may go along with it?
Anyways, I want to do this pro-se if possible. Has anyone ever done this? I have all the papers which I got from the courts but they won't tell me what all needs to be filled out, how to fill them out, how to file, ect. Pretty much they just said "here are the papers, figure them out." Also, if everything goes smoothly, how long will it take from the filing date until the finalization of the adoption? How much will this cost me pro-se? Also, why does a home study need to be done when my daughter has always lived with me and my husband has lived with us since she was 2 months old, and we've been married since she was 6 months old? What does the home study all consist of? Geez, I'm full of questions lol. I will probably have a ton more! Please help me in any way possible! Thank you so much!