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I am the spouse of an adoptee. My husband recently reunited with his birthmother. It has been a wonderful experience, more so than we ever imagined. However, Christmas is just around the corner and I need to think of gift ideas. (We have sent some gifts already, that were major hits. I feel like I have an expectation to live up to! :p I'm only kidding. ) For his mother, I thought about something engraved with "Family is Forever." Yes, I stole this from the movie Dolphin Tale. At first I thought it was endearing, then my mind started working overtime. Do you think it would hurt her feelings? (She isn't easily offended.) I don't want the word family opposed to something that says mother to cause her pain. Any ideas? suggestions?
I think it's neat to think of including her if you have a relationship that is growing.:) I would still run it by your dh though because this is something he should really be in charge of.
My dh wouldn't have wanted to personalize a gift like that so early on in his reunion. So make sure it's something your dh would want.
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He is totally accepting of it. :) He is 41 and he and bmom are in a good place. In fact, the only one having a hard time with this is my six year old dd and she already loves her new family. I think she is just afraid, SHE will have two moms.
From my own experience, the experience in its self is a huge gift. There is nothing that can beat spending a holiday together. If you want to find a tangible gift to give, then I'm sure you will be able to find one after spending some time together. However, I think the best gift is the support you give. Never underestimate that, it really is a wonderful thing.