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i just have some things to ask i had 2 children that was adopted i never had understand all this maybe you can help since you was adopted why did you want to find your mother i wonder if mine even knew they was adopted and if they want to see me i'm scared for rejection also i had tryed everything trying to reach them i know where they at but the lady that adopted them didnt want me in thier lives any way good luck on that finding your mother it all depends on how the adoption came about i'm here if you need any help because i'm a birth mother myself

:wings: my son and daughter was adopted just because the state thought i couldnt take care of them are in the near future it broke my heart i love them so much and tryed everything to reach them but no response they are in thier 20s i fought for 2 years it got me no where and i'm running into a brick wall now i found my daughter on my space wrote a message no response even wrote her a certifyed letter it was returned to me unclaimed i just dont know which way to go now if any one have any advice please let me know thank you

The first thing that occurs to me to say is that the feelings you are experiencing are very normal. I'm an adoptee myself that went through the search and reunion process and a lot of what I dealt with was the fear of the unknown...where my b-parents were, rejection, would I like what I find at the end? As for your question about a letter vs email, I think that depends on who you are communicating with. If the person is comfortable with email, then there's nothing wrong with that. If not then a letter may be better, but letters have an annoying habit of going missing at the worst possible times. I think you are probably in the middle of the hardest time right now...the waiting. Even though it sounds like a cliche, the truth tends to be that there are no concrete answers. The best advice I can give you at the moment is to take what the agency gives you (hopefully something good) and roll with it. Keep us posted! Best, PADJ

hi thanks but my case is differnt it was the department of social service and i already contacted them and unfortunally they want a fee and plus they said if they dont want to see me they can not give me any information which i think is a load of crap they was taking from me on the ground i couldnt take care of them so i fought for 2 years and got no where but i have wrote letters but got no where i just dont know where to turn

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I wrote a letter, and I included some pics of me now and earlier, along with some pics of my family. That would be the best way to go if you are not computer-savy. Emails are okay, but not that personal. I have not found my parents yet, but am still in the process.

I am a birthmum...trouble is I cant speak for all birthmums. All i can share is that if i had got an email or a letter it wouldn't have made a single bit of difference...i would jump and scream for joy if contacted either way...or any way for that matter! Good luck whatever you decide! susie

I am birth mother and in reunion with my son since 2009. al I can say you never know if you rmother was looing for you as I had been, We were both looking eah other thorugh Catholic Chariites- that stupid agency for 1o years. Be prepared if she takes time to repsond because- its a shock. It took me me almost three weeks because all I could do was cry! It took thre months to finally get contatc informaiton because afterCC could nto find us. He went thoruhg an intermideterry so you have to go through them with all contacts. You write to them they read it and delte some stuff and send it to him. This process also almost drove me crazy. I was anxious and nervous especially when there ws a delay in his response if he wnated to exchange contact informaiton. I thought he had declined but he was on vacation.Hang in there!