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I find myself in a sudden panic situation with zero resources or help and looking to find information as quickly as possible. I am amazed at how little there is in the way of online resources. I know nothing about adoption or how any of this works and need to be an absolute expert quickly.
My wife is a very naive gullible and fragile person. As of last night she has some homeless kid telling her that he is her long lost adopted kid. He is the right age of the son she gave up 21 years ago, but nothing else about his story makes any sense at all, he is just making things up as he goes but she is not emotionally capable of seeing that. He has so far imposed on her for food and a place to stay. Friends and family are hearing about this by the hour and getting very upset because they know how incapable of being objective she can be. The problem is there are no emergency resources i could find to handle something like this.
Should I call the police? Should I call the hospital? What is the quickest way to get to the bottom of this kid and his story so that my wife can end this confusion and turmoil immediately.
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The hospital? What hospital? Why would you call a hospital? 1. How old is the child? Is he a minor? If he is a minor and a runaway, then I think you should call social services. If you are not sure that he is a runaway but he is asking for food and to stay in your home, I would still call social services. Either way, he is in need of some kind of help. If you know he is not a runaway and is living with his parents in a shelter, car or other place, you could try talking with them to try to confirm whether he is adopted. If they are willing to talk to you, see if they know where he was born, the name of the placing agency or lawyer, etc. 2. Does your wife remember the name of the agency or the lawyer who placed her child for adoption? Can she contact that party and leave a message for the parents, telling them this person has contacted her and asking them to confirm/deny his authenticity through the agency? If he is a minor, she would also be leaving a message regarding his whereabouts. Whatever his story turns out to be, it won't be ideal, that's clear. I hope, though, that things turn out as well as possible for all involved. Good luck.
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As she gave him up 21 years ago, I assume that he is at least 21. I would ask him for his adoptive parents info, phone number, address, etc, and I would line up dna tests. It is possible his story is all over the place because he is lying, it is also possible that he is her son, his life sucked and he doesn't want to spill the whole story right now. He must know somehow that she placed a child and unless you all talk about that on a regular basis and the info is out there so everyone can get it, he could be her son, or could know her son, if it turns out that he isn't her son. Don't just assume that he is a liar, but get that dna test set up asap. Good luck :-)