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Kinda just venting....
I'm just starting the process of adopting thru foster care. Most of my friends and family have been extremely supportive, giving me mommy tips, things to look into, books to read, etc. However when I told a close friend last night all he could do was laugh (so long it was uncomfortable) and tell me I was not responsible enough or ready to have kids because I wasn't married. Then he walked away and wouldn't look at me for the rest of the night. I know not everyone is going to think this is a good idea but this one is really throwing me for a loop.
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Some people aren't going to agree, even people close to you. Most of my friends and family were really excited and supportive; I have one aunt who told me it was irresponsible for me to adopt since I'm single. She's come around and thinks C is fantastic (even though they haven't actually met in person due to geography). Some people will continue to have negative reactions, and you'll have to decide if you want those people to continue to be a part of your life.There is still stigma against single parents - especially single parents by choice - in our society. It's one thing we need to learn to deal with as single parents. I've learned which of my friends are the most supportive and accepting, and they tend to be the ones with the most prominent place in our lives. When people don't agree with my life decisions (if they are people whose opinion I value) I will consider what they have to say, but if they can't support the choice I end up making, I tell them gently that they can either learn to support me or stay away.