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This is my first time here and I am swimming in emotion, so please forgive me if this is in the wrong place.
My daughter went to live with my mom when she was just over a year old. I could not care for her as I'm Bipolar and suffer from a severe form of it where I've been hospitalized over 12 times in 6 years.
My mom asked if she and my step-dad could adopt her since she's lived with them almost 6 years now.
In my heart I know that I cannot care for her. In no way, shape or form could I raise a child, as my last hospitalization was in December 2011.
But I'm still grieving and hurting. My mom said she wants it to be an Open Adoption and that she would still call me Mommy. What do I do with these feeling? I suppose I should seek counseling.
I'm so sorry for your pain.
Adoption would certainly make it easier for your mom to care for the child. I can't imagine how difficult this must be. :(
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I can imagine your pain. Such a big change. The counseling does sound like a good idea.
The one thing I notice is that it might be safer for your daughter for your mom and stepdad to be the actual legal parents. When we are "foster" parents, or don't have full legal authority regarding children in our home, it is possible to have that be an issue. For example, in a medical emergency.
That would be one positive, concrete thing.
What is the best situation for your Daughter? Just remember you are her mother and nothing will ever change that. Also, please try to think about the fact that she in the home she has been in most of her life. Hang in there I know you will make the decision that is best.
Pandora2012
This is my first time here and I am swimming in emotion, so please forgive me if this is in the wrong place.
My daughter went to live with my mom when she was just over a year old. I could not care for her as I'm Bipolar and suffer from a severe form of it where I've been hospitalized over 12 times in 6 years.
My mom asked if she and my step-dad could adopt her since she's lived with them almost 6 years now.
In my heart I know that I cannot care for her. In no way, shape or form could I raise a child, as my last hospitalization was in December 2011.
But I'm still grieving and hurting. My mom said she wants it to be an Open Adoption and that she would still call me Mommy. What do I do with these feeling? I suppose I should seek counseling.
I would strongly suggest speaking with a counselor. You need somebody to help you sort through these issues. Sorry for your pain.