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My father is 80 and received an email on our family's business website saying that he is someone's father. As we have an internet based business that trades on his name she boasted that she was able to find him in 20 minutes of searching online.
My father had forgotten the brief liaison with her mother and had no idea that she had been the result. He had by chance met the mother about 5 years later in a social setting and she did not mention the child.
The 54 "child" is now a public figure who cautioned my father to tell no one. Despite having come out of the blue to my father, my sisters, me and my mother.
She caused a lot of problems and it was just mischief really, she didn't want anything. Just to say Hello.
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LJ6,
Have you met or had any contact with your half sister yet?
oh, I guess I am I'm guessing she is your half sister since I am not sure if your dad is you bio dad or not. I've learned lately that that's not something I should assume as much as I usually do:rolleyes:
I came out of the blue to my fathers family too. Not my fault it's where I was kept, was put. Hard for me to come from anywhere else LOL
It's not an easy thing to do contact a stranger that you are told is your father. I imagine she was excited that she was able to find him, and so easily find him over the internet, it took me 20 years to find my Father. It's hard and there really are no rule books out there, that are easy to find, on how to go about it all. It's not something you hear much about anyway. It does sound like she could have been a little more concerned with privacy. It's easy to throw caution in the wind at a time like that. I too wanted to say Hello, here I am, nice to meet you, and of course hoped that would be returned. Didn't want to upset the family due to past actions of my father in his past, again not my fault. But I felt we all had the right to know we all existed, just to know, if anything just to keep our kids from dating/marrying each other.
Is your bsis adopted or was she with her mother all along?
Has your family been able to get over the shock enough to want to know more about her? Or is she weird or something?
I can understand the upset this has caused your father in the last year since you posted the first time but really. It is not her fault if that was the only wasy she could make contact.
As an adoptee I can understand her needing aknowledgement. Your attitude is much like my bsiblings. You come across as resentful that this woman exists.
FTR It does not sound like a "reunion" to me, more like an attempt at contact.
I agree you do sound resentful.
Is it because she exists?
the way she made contact?
Is she a threat to the family in some way?
I think maybe you haven't told us enough to understand what is up.
The same thing happened to my Adopted Dad at about the same age. He had no idea either.
We were interested in her, excited to meet her and welcomed her with open arms - until we got to know her LOL She was a horrible snooty judgmental racist ***** who seemed to just want to make everyone as miserable as she was.
When she was entirely too disrespectful to my Mom, we'd had more than enough and I escorted her out and back to her home. We gave her several chances, it just didn't work out. It was very disappointing.
It's been a joy to know her son tho, Dad's grandson, he visits frequently. He is so much like my Dad it's amazing. He doesn't have much to do with his mother either. He and my daughter and her husband-to-be have become great friends, they are all about the same age.
Maybe we could help if you tell us more, but at this point you are not sounding like such a nice person from what you have said.
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Dickons
LJ,
So your father has had a birthday since your post in late February when he was in his late 70's.
How is your mother taking this now that time has elapsed?
I thought you wanted her gone so am not sure what you are looking for in this post.
Dickons
Originally Posted by DickonsLJ, So your father has had a birthday since your post in late February when he was in his late 70's. How is your mother taking this now that time has elapsed? I thought you wanted her gone so am not sure what you are looking for in this post. Dickons
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murphymalone
How did "she" cause a lot of problems? Your father evidently made a choice to be promiscuous and didn't tell people. That's his problem not hers.