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My mother and bio-dad divorced before I was even born and I was adopted by my mother's new husband before I turned two, and he is the only father I've ever known.
Still, I've always known he was not my biological father. When I was a child, we used to visit my bio-dads parents at Christmas, but I never actually met my bio-dad. He was an alcoholic, and that's all I know about him.
Anyway, by the time I was 10 or so, we stopped visiting my bio-grandparents, and after that I stopped getting letters and I lost contact completely. My mother never really talked about and never asked if I wanted to see them or told me anything about my bio-dad or his family. I felt like it would be somehow wrong to ask, so I let it go.
Now I'm 24 and I think about those grandparents often. I don't want to believe they have simply forgotten about one of their grandchildren, especially since we used to have contact. The other day I searched for them on google and discovered that my grandmother passed away 6 months ago, but my grandfather is still alive. They also have many other grandchildren that I never knew about. I was able to locate the gravesite, but I have no other real contact info. I did find one family member on facebook, but I don't know if I feel comfortable contacting someone that way.
I don't know if I should even attempt contact at all. I still feel like I can't talk to my mother about this either. I'm not sure what advice I'm looking for. The whole thing just saddens and confuses me.
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