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I have been reunited with my bmom since early 2007. We had a great email relationship at first, met face-to-face, and I even met with bmom's sister and later bgrandparents. However, for the past year or longer, contact has been almost nonexistent. I have tried to keep up with emails, but don't get a reply. I would really like to continue the relationship, and eventually broach the issue of bdad. I also have FIVE half-siblings that I would love to meet (grew up an only child). Any ideas from anyone as to how I could go about reconnecting and how I should broach the issue of bdad?
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Is it possible that your mom is dealing with feelings that have come up and is needing time/space to process them?
I don't know how often you have been emailing, but perhaps, if you are emailing frequently you might need to think about backing off - just a little for a little while. Try again in a few months with something along the lines of "I just wanted to let you know that, while I don't understand, I want to respect your need to slow the reunion down a bit. Please let me know when you are ready to talk again. In the meantime, would it be possible to have you pass my contact information on to my siblings, as I would love to be able to meet them."
I feel that you should know that I was not adopted, but thought that maybe this could be the case (as I have read on here many times).
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Sometimes following reunion there does come a time when one or both sides need a breather. Taking that time to collect ones thoughts is hard to do, even though it's necessary.
The other thing that I wondered about was if you have any clues as to why your mom may have pulled back? Is there something going on in her life now that is demanding her attention elsewhere?
It's rough, but finding out the reason that the communication has tailed off is probably the first step towards finding the best way to cope.
Best,
PADJ