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Originally Posted By Cynic
The person named Kate seems to think I did not provide enough information and that I reiterated my statements(blame that on being in academia for too long). She is just probably trying to change the topic, but here is an article that I found. It has more to do with the birthmother than adoptive parents though, I will keep searching for information.
Adoption for African Americans
by Gail Steinberg and Beth Hall
How does adoptism affect African American women facing an unplanned pregnancy? It limits their access to the option of adoption. There is a general conviction within the adoption community that African American women simply do not place babies for adoption. We are concerned about two aspects that limit African American women's access to adoption services: agency and independent institutional practices that deny adoption services to Black women and community practices that justify the denial. All women - not just those who will produce the babies most eagerly sought by traditional adoptive parents - deserve a full range of choices when facing an untimely pregnancy.
The Black community generally has strong feelings against adoption. That women would have no reason to consider adoption is often explained in positive terms: first, that because of the strength of family ties within the Black community, adoption is not necessary ("We take care of our own"), and second, that single parent families do not incur stigmatization. On the other hand, while Black women are accused of immorality, breeding for profit, or raising welfare costs, adoption is considered an unlikely choice because "they are only delivering babies to serve as meal tickets." From either point of view, African American women are being viewed as members of a group, not as individuals. But what about those who would want to have access to adoption services? Why should they have fewer choices?
Choosing to entrust a child to another family to raise in adoption is usually an act of great self-sacrifice. It is not a decision anyone makes all at once. Every day, both before and after the birth, parents must ask themselves if they are making the right decision or if their choice was in the best interests of their child. Such women are confronted with an unfair burden, a clear demonstration of "adoptism" in action: facing the personal dilemmas of this difficult choice while also having to do battle with one's own community and meeting resistance from professionals who may simply say they have no families available to adopt a child of color.
The only way to change things is to grant each individual the right to make a personal choice and to respect the diversity of opinions that will result. Equal services must be available regardless of race. This equality means that adoption professionals must insist of themselves that they offer pre-adoption services to women of color - treating not just after the birth, along with the child, but before the birth, when the options may be greatest.
Originally Posted By Bonnie
What a great article. It does explain things well. It breaks my heart to think that there are agencies or other adoption professionals that won't even offer services to African Americans, or other races, religions, etc. Since I grew up in a very urban area and have always lived near large metropolitan cities, I have a difficult time with this.
I wonder if there are any statics on which agencies only cater to which race, religion, etc. My gues is that there aren't ant. That would be grounds for a major discrimination suit.
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Originally Posted By CPMommy
Thanks for the article. I didn't mean to start all this trouble my heart just breaks every time I look at the statistics. I'm only one person but I promise to do all I can to make sure I help all the children that I can in my lifetime.
I just never realized how many people were opposed to even the idea of giving a needy child a home. With the exception of some bmoms that have had bad experiences, most have no valid reason. I have heard so many selfish reasons why I shouldn't expose my family to these children. I'll take the chance. I want to set an example to all those who insulted these precious children as being less worthy of all the opportunities other children have.
I pray I can change the hearts of those around my family.
LOL
Cathy
Originally Posted By NicksterMommy
I really believe that, once your family sees all of the JOY that those children bring to your lives, they will come around. People want to protect those that they love. Your family has probably heard all of the horror stories that get blown out of proportion on the news. I admire you so much for doing what is right and not letting others talk you out of it.
Always got money on your mind? :) Please sue em'. Might bring attention to the fact that adoption is evil and needs to be eradicated.