Adoptee 's Birthdays

I always felt as tho I was an "outsider" and never deserved a birthday. I didnt want the extra attention.It seems there was so much grief, loss and despair surrounding my adoption and unknown parents, that little else mattered.Altho, as a young child I didnt know i was grieving. I only knew I wanted to be left alone.Also it was hard to reconcile almost daily abuse with 1 day of being "special." I didn't want ice cream and cake or to be honored by peers and school mates. My family told me I was "nothing" why all at once have a day of celebration. How did I deserve any honor for just 1 day?As years progressed, there were different levels of birth day celebrations. But mostly little, or nothing was done. It was simply mentioned and that ended it. I was grateful.I wish you the best.