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I've posted on here a couple times.....I'm a 25 year old single female. Earlier this year I was considering adopting on my own, but was conserned that I was doing this at to young of an age and needed to wait a little while. I have tried to put the thought of adoption out of my head and focus on other things, but it seems to just keep sneaking back into my brain! I have know since I was 18 that I wanted to adopt, whether it be by myself or with someone when I was married. So yet again I guess i'm just confused if this is the right time? Is there a reason that adopting a child just won't leave my mind? I know that know one but me has the answer just nice getting it out there!
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If you have the resources to care for a child and are adopting because you have a need to grow your family, then I'd say go for it
If, on the other hand, adoption represents something else to you, beyond having a child, you may want to do some processing on that need
I know that probably sounds obscure. :p
When I was 23, I was obsessed with adopting. But knew my lack of education and income would make it impossible for me to adopt. I moved on (20 years later, I did end up adopting)
Looking back, my desire at that time was a desire to make my life have meaning.. I had flunked out of school, was working at a convenience store, and living in a trailer park. I didn't feel a had value and some how thought being a mom would raise my level
Had I adopted back then, I'm not sure what I would have done when I realized parenthood would not fix all my problems.
Sorry for the ramble. I guess what I'm saying is - in your heart of hearts, if you truly believe you are simply craving parenthood, then go for it.
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