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We adopted twin girls a few years ago (toddlers) and we just found out that they have a baby brother (bio sibling) in foster system. The reunite is not panning out with birth parents (serious drug issues) and we've inquired to adopt since goal is going to adoption. However - a grandparent has stepped in with placement request. In a situation like this, do the adoptive parents with 2 bio siblings overide a grandparent placement or is it the other way around? We are already homestudy approved, the grandparent not yet but grandparent has relationship with birth parents whereas we don't due to closed adoption (terminated rights from before). Do we stand a chance to placement of baby brother so we can have siblings all living together? We don't know the new caseworker and she has not contacted us, we just heard 'some' information from our old case worker.
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The grandparents will be priority because they are both bio and legal family. Still let everyone know you are interested and see about starting visits if possible. Are you able to foster the baby in the meantime? Why didn't the grandparents adopt the older siblings?
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they were asked before and declined. i have no clue why. we have asked to foster and are approved to both foster and adopt but the child is in a special care home for the time being due to drugs. We feel out of the loop and inquiring has been difficult.
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they were asked before and declined. i have no clue why. we have asked to foster and are approved to both foster and adopt but the child is in a special care home for the time being due to drugs. We feel out of the loop and inquiring has been difficult.
I would inquire on the sibling.... it is tricky though. a friend of mine had a similar situation,but they wouldn't place since the "sibling" was no longer considered a sibling , due to being adopted outside the birth family... which I don't agree with!
the grandparents might back out, so at least let them know you're interested and see what happens.
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It's difficult, no doubt about it. I would still ask about getting placement so the siblings can have time together. Depending on tgd impact of the drugs, special care might not be required for long. While we were told that we would'nt win over a relative placement at the beginning (obviously a child should be with family) we were told that since we've had placement all along and have have bio sibling that after TPR (when they are no longer legal family either ) we would have better standing because the siblings have a bond. Keep pushing! It is in baby's best interest for the kids to have already had visits and gotten to know each other.
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we struggle with 'best interest of the child' because in our opinion going to relative and still being around drug user bio's and there cousins and friends doesn't exactly sound like a stable environment to us, so why can't they see that i don't know.
We will keep trying but have basically been told biological family has 1st choice. We are in California.
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Please don't have sibling visits unless you plan to have contact regardless of the outcome. We adopted our two great nieces and fostered our great nephew - it has been the hardest 8 years of these children's lives to be siblings - but not living together. We did everything we could with visits and vacations to keep them connected. But it was still painful to all three - he is placed with us now for what we hope is the last time and praying for permanency.
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