Searching with little information

ShariLynn, I hope you're still checking messages here. I was also born in NY... sealed records... I know the feeling. I was lucky enough to have a name to start with - something jotted down on a scrap of paper that my dad recently shared with me. My birth mother also had a fairly unusual last name. I decided to poke around on ancestry.com - just like any "normal" person might do when looking for information on long-lost family. (There's a brief free trial that I signed up for - totally worth a try.) A search for her name and the state where I thought she lived before my birth (not NY) gave me a short list of candidates... before I knew it, I was looking at a yearbook photo that almost could have been me when I was in high school. If I'd worn my hair in a beehive... A little more searching via ancestry, classmates.com, and a few other sites led me to the names of my birth mother's parents and sister. The archived obituary for her father led me to her married name. From there, well, I'm afraid my story doesn't end as well as it started - once I had her married name, I soon found her obituary. She died a little over three years ago. I was too late. However, in spite of the sad news I found at the end, I was amazed at how quickly I was able to find information. It may not be that easy in every case, but a unique name does help. I wish you good luck. And if I can help you any further, don't hesitate to ask...

thank you for replying....I did find my birth mother about 2 months ago. I have some posting under heading "are these feeling normal" which sort of tell where I am now. Only 2 phone calls with bm no face to face meeting, not by my choice. I left it up to here and she hasnt called in 5 weeks. but I'll survive... I am sorry your bm passed away. were you able to locate birth farther?

Oh, Sharilynn, I'm sorry your reunion hasn't been going the way you'd hoped. Perhaps with time, things might change... I hope that's the case for you.I have no information whatsoever about my birth father. I was hoping to get some information from my birth mother.My birth mother did have a sister who is still alive and was very find-able with a bit of additional online searching. I'm now considering the implications of trying to contact her...