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DS has SPD. We're beginning to potty train. DS2 is six months younger, but has the concept down pretty good... DS1 refuses with all his might to sit on the chair if he has to go (he will chill and play toys, read a book, watch a movie on the chair--but demands a diaper if he has to go pee or poop).
What I've read on SPD... he is apparently not having so much issue with discovering the sensations... is it more transition, the newness, ???
And, are there any parents with advice? He was running around today with a turd dangling screetching "diaper diaper!!". --so frustrating, and so disheartening. I want him to succeed (particularly because he sees his "little" brother getting rewards and praise and attention... and he just sits back looking sad, because he isn't getting it). I feel like as a parent there has to be a better option than making him feel like a failure when the truth is just that I don't fully understand what to do with him because he has issues due to SPD :(
...and today, a cw asked me if I was disciplining him for his accidents. Ugh. (no, dear... a special needs child doesn't need extra negative attention for what they are unable to do... they need redirection and encouragement).
Thanks in advance for any help!
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Hopefully someone with more experience will chime in. Can you back off of potty training with ds1 and find other areas to shower him with praise? If ds2 is ready I would take advantage of it. Some of my kids were potty trained because they wanted to keep up with a sibling. My ds who has spd tendencies fought me on potty training but as soon as it was his idea to lose the diaper he basically potty trained himself. Good luck.
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My first question is how old is he? Both my SPD boys trained late (4 & 4 1/2). In fact my friends with SPD kids trained late as well. I think SPD kids just take longer to be truly ready to potty train and pushing them just hurts everyone involved.
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We had a very hard time potty training DD, who has sensory issues and attachment issues. Between the two, it's been rough and we went through rewards, consequences, bribes... everything. DD's a sensory seeker, so she never cared that she was wet or dirty. She will literally sit in wet pants for hours if no one "catches" her.
I think we FINALLY got her trained, but it took trying a million different things, and she's 5 1/2. We're not even attempting night training.
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And, are there any parents with advice? He was running around today with a turd dangling screetching "diaper diaper!!". --so frustrating, and so disheartening.
My son has autism and is partially potty trained. For him, it was more that you are "suppposed" to do business in the diaper. It was't that he doesn't like the potty so much as the supposed. Even now, when we've been dealing with a medical issue that has put him back in a pull up, in the pull up, he does business.....in big boy pants he doesn't. For him, its not sensory, but more that typical narrow thinking. So when we had the option, and weren't dealing with medical issues, we had to just take the diapers/pull ups away and change the "supposed to". Instead of supposed to do business in the diaper (which kids learn from the time we put them in diapers) to "not supposed to" do business in big boy pants.
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Maybe you can try doing it in smaller steps? Like, allow him to go in the diaper as long as he is sitting on a potty (chair/toilet) when he is "going."
Then see if you can drape a diaper over the seat of his potty so that he isn't wearing the diaper.
From there try putting the diaper down into the potty chair, so he is still going on the diaper, but it isn't against his skin.
Then hopefully you can take away the diaper.
Not saying this will work, it's just a thought.
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