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I am in the middle of reading this book and a lot of it is really on the mark when it comes to my feelings and challenges as an adult adoptee. This author seems very in touch with our experiences as adoptees.
I would love to speak/message with another adoptee who has read this book and see how you feel about the theories, themes running through these pages. Have any of the strategies been helpful to you?
Thanks! Tina
Tkell,
I have read bits and pieces of the book and saw the potential in it - but I had long since made my peace so it didn't hold much for me - I did find her first book very interesting and validating as well and saw how each of us in the family followed the different paths she had laid out as children. Others have found this second book very helpful and if you find it so then keep reading.
There isn't too much traffic on this forum by adoptees but as the book is relevant to both first parents and adoptive parents as well - hopefully some will respond. Bumping this thread to catch the afternoon views.
Take care,
Dickons
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tkell
I am in the middle of reading this book and a lot of it is really on the mark when it comes to my feelings and challenges as an adult adoptee. This author seems very in touch with our experiences as adoptees.
I would love to speak/message with another adoptee who has read this book and see how you feel about the theories, themes running through these pages. Have any of the strategies been helpful to you?
Thanks! Tina
I have read this book. IMO, it should be required reading for all members of the triad before a search is started (pie-in-the-sky thinking, of course).
There are more yellow highlights in my book than white space now :). I love that it talks about not only adoption, but feelings you may experience related to any type of trauma suffered in your life.
A lot of it I had already heard / understood, but it was so nice to get the validation that I'm not totally off my rocker :).
Both of Verrier's books, Coming Home to Self and The Primal Wound are excellent resources for all members of the adoption community, no matter which side of the triad one may be on. They helped me understand my son better, as well as myself. :loveyou:
Thank you for this. Although my hubby and i are still planning to adopt..i want to read anything that would help us.
I've not read this one, but I NEED to read Primal Wound. It was a week ago today that I found my adoption papers. I'm 51!
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Hey,
I haven't read "Coming home to self" but i have read "Primal Wound" by the same author. I feel all of the themes were very relevant and she has a great insight into adoptees. I would love to hear about an adoptees personal feelings and responses to some of her theories too!
I found it quite difficult and depressing to read some of the book because as great as it is to know you are not alone in feeling like that, it really hurts to have to acknowledge all of it and face up to it.
My Primal Wound arrived last Friday; I finished it that day. I agree with the sentiments of realizing that everything we've felt is normal for us. And yes, it is hard to face the realities of our existences and lives. I'm giving Primal Wound to my counselor so she has a good idea of how to proceed with me.
Are there any books about being a Late Discovery Adoptee? I think that would be fascinating - especially for us to know we are not alone.
I haven't read Primal Wound but I am planning on buying it. I'm 22 and have known all my life that I was adopted. But my aMom just gave me letters and stuff a few months ago (after I got married) and gave me her blessing. It's hard to deal with but I think I'm almost ready to search. I heard Coming Home to Self was a great book. I plan on reading that one soon.
Hi Tina.
Being a adoptee myself, i am also in the process of reading 'Coming Home To Self'.
If you are still looking to find people to talk with and share your thoughts and feelings about it's contents then i would find that helpful too.
Regards,
Becky
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