Adopting a child / birth parents / adoptee parents

Once the adoption papers are sighned you can do anything you want to in that respect. To say this is your wish before signing will have potential to be a detremental force. I don't understand why when you are an adoptee that this would be what you want for the child.

Once the papers are signed and the adoption final then the adoptive parents take on all parental rights. This means they have control over who can or cannot see or have contact with their child. Closed adoptions were for a long time believed to be best but then when adoptees started to talk about what they would have wished for had they been asked this was revised. Today there is a lot of talk about open adoption but this is a misnomer as in reality it relies on the good will of all parties involved. The mantra of 'best interests of the child' gets lost in adult selfishness. Think of the child and their wishes ..............the ones they may not yet be able to express. I was adopted at the age of four months and being brutally honest it is impossible for the child to be 100% yours.

Is this a closed or open adoption? Parental rights terminated or not? The social worker on your case should be able to answer this question.