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Today I got my letter about my court date. All along I planned for my 3 year old daughter and I to dress up and listen to the judge make everything official. I thought she was expected to be there. I thought that until I saw in the letter that children under 10 do not have to attend. I mentioned this to my sister and she thinks my daughter shouldn't attend. My sister thinks that there is no need for my daughter to have a memory of the judge &court since we are already a family. She says going to court to legalize it is more for me. Now I'm torn. What do you think?
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I say take her and take lots of pictures. You only get one chance and those are important pictures for my kids.
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Take her! My son was 17-months-old and I took him. It is part of her story. Plus the judges like to see happy kids and families together.
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Take her. The judges in both of my adoptions wanted to have pictures taken with the kids and I. Besides, would you leave the child home and go somewhere to celebrate their birthday? I know it is different, but similar analogy. The adoption is about the child, imo.
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Definitely go! Twice I have had judges tell me that they best part of their week/month are adoption days. I think it's an important day for you both and something that should be celebrated!
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Three times we brought our kids to be adopted. And our other kids. And my parents, and my husband's mom, and my grandmother. And my bff one time.
The Judge always liked seeing the kid and commenting on being able to see how loved and well cared for the child is.
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Oh my goodness BRING her. This is the legal formation of your family, and this is a big day in her life's story. The pictures and memories, if she has any, are important. This is your family's birthday!!!
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DEFINITELY YES!!! Not only am I an adoptive parent (I brought my daughter who was then 26 months old!) but I am currently a Law Guardian - and previously when I was in private practice as an attorney I represented adoptive parents all the time. I have attended literally hundreds of adoptions over the years and I have NEVER been to one where the child did not attend. This is all about her, and you will cherish the memory of this day forever!! Congratulations!!!!!
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Another thing, ask everyone you want to to be there. When I finalized my younger sons' adoption a few weeks ago there were about 50 family and friends in attendance. The judge said she had never seen so many people come to celebrate the joyous occasion of adoption for one child. She then said "I get the first picture taken with the new family".
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Thank you Everyone! I decided that she is going! (what was I thinking!) This is what I originally wanted & decided to go back to. I didn't want to be there & then regret not bringing her! Besides, I agree this is a celebration for my daughter, me, family, friends & everyone present! Seven days to go!
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