Heavey Heart

I totally agree with pp. One thing i can say many years out is that if the baby is placed with you, you are not a counselor or responsible for making her whole. I had a lot of guilt after we adopted dd because i hated the pain it caused her bps. Ultimately i realized they wanted us to be thrilled to be parenting dd...and we are! There are reasons that if emom places you will never understand....but trust that she has her own circimstances to deal with that you of course did not cause. One of the most beautiful moments i ever experienced was dd's bdad looking her in the eyes when she was 4 yo and saying...never lose the light in your eyes. It was a true realization that all of dd's parents want the best for her. Hugs!