need kinship advice ???????/

I NEED advice from kinship/relatives!!! M(8) is our kids' younger brother and has been in foster care out of state for 14 months. Everyone in the case feels he should be with us even the judge. BUT..... not enough evidence to support TPR!!!!!! M(8) has insisted that he wants to be with us for many months. Our family has been visiting him religiously as well as having M(8) for several week long visits to our home. The attorneys wants to try and work out an agreement with Mom and our family about continued involvement with M(8) when he is RU. I don't know HOW that can work out?????? We have committed many hours and invested many emotions over the last year, TRYING TO BE THERE FOR M(8)............ He wants to be with us and we want him to be with his siblings in our home. The pain is hard to take tonight. I don't want to tell my children. M is supposed to come for a week at Christmas. This is going to destroy them!!!!!! I don't know what to do or what to ask for............HELP! [url]http://forums.adoption.com/images/icons/icon9.gifhttp://forums.adoption.com/images/icons/icon9.gifhttp://forums.adoption.com/images/icons/icon9.gif[/url]