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Although what kind of trouble? They gonna throw us in jail? I don't think so. They wanna take my kid too late already have. Cut off visits? We are going to anyway.
My husband could NOT do the last visit. He had a breakdown and told me he could not sit there and listen to how GREAT her life is. I told him drop me off and come back when an hour had passed.
Good thing he had NOT gone. All I heard was how great her school is, how she has a solo at church, how she is waiting to take a class her senior year and the worker was on it too. So obviously she does not plan to come home. We don't want her home at this point.
So our case plan says we can't talk about the past unless in a therapeutic environment which we are NOT doing family therapy. Then it says we will focus on what Christin wants her future to look like.
So I think if we can talk about the future it is appropriate to ask in a kind way if she plans on doing her senior year there. If she plans on a future at home? She will prob say she doesn't want to talk about it. But then we are going to explain that her future will not include visits with us. We are done with visits since they are not accomplishing anything. My mental health can't take it and neither can our marriage.
This will all be done kindly and calmly. But I think they are doing her a disservice not letting her know the truth. Of course they don't really know we plan to cut visits but they are keeping this girl in the dark and she is 17 in a month. If she was 8, 9, 10 I could understand.
Hmmm... In many ways it would be better for your daughter, and your family if things were not dragged out.
But, if following their plan delays them charging you child support, it may be worth it. And, you may end up leaving C on better terms, you can make it seem like it was her decision by dropping comments of that type during visits. Not blatantly breaking their rules, just saying things like how pleased you all are that she is happy and working towards her future, etc.
Just keep claiming that your husband has to work, watch the other kids, is ill, etc... And, maybe keep the visits to every 2-3 weeks, maybe even once a month.
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