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We went yesterday to our agency to pickup "C". It was very emotional for all of us. Lot's of tears and some laughter. First mom has 7 days to change her mind, but she told us that she is at peace with her decision. We are still waiting the 7 days to tell everyone other than our closest relatives and friends. C is 5 weeks old and sleeps a lot. He loves to cuddle. When we went to pick up our daughter from my mothers the first thing she asked was did you get my brother? And for the next hour she kept thanking us for him. :love:
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Well "C" is 12 weeks old. When we finally told everyone, almost all of them said the same thing, "We didn't even know you were chosen!". I had to explain to them the reason was to protect us if the placement fail through. Everyone was understanding when I explained to them how this placement had been such a roller-coaster. We have also had our first visit with Mom "P". We met at the park. "P" almost had to cancel because she didn't have a ride to meet us. Initially her mom was going to give her a ride but P's birth-mom support group ran over and her mom had a meeting to get too. P had been so excited to see him that I told them that I didn't mind giving her a ride home. She was in tears when I offered. We spent a couple of hours at the park. I even left her alone with C a couple of times when I went to play with T. The visit went really well. During the visit she was telling me how hard it was explaining an open adoption with people who have no concept of adoption. She had a friend who wanted to know when C would get to have overnight visits with P. I asked how she responded to her. She told her that it was up to us "when" she was aloud to get him for an overnight. :confused: That took me aback. We have never agreed to overnight visits. We agreed to updates every 30 days and visit's at least every 6 weeks. So I just said "Huh". I wasn't sure how to respond to that without hurting her feelings. I figure if she does ask we'll have to sit her down and explain to her that that will not be happening. Any advise on how to explain it to her without coming off mean?
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