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We are foster parents about to adopt sweet baby girl.... Bios have abandoned and have drug issues however, bio dad stays with sister, who lives just down street from us. It is very awkward, we run into him all the time and though we want to be considerate... it's extremely awkward and scary. No he's never been threatening but he's on meth and we have a park next door that our kids play at all the time and I can't help but be concerned about our big kids let alone little one. What's it going to be like for her as she ages? We are settled and don't forsee moving so he could pop up at any time. Has anyone else dealt with this? (help!) TIA
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I understand, though I'm not sure I have any advice to offer. My only consultation is that the bios move pretty often, so I always hope that they will move away.
The bio parents for our kids found out where we live, address and all. They only live about 30 minutes away. When I expressed concern to my CW I was told to let them know if anything happens. Also the police (I did stop by the station and talk to them after getting mail from the bios) said that if they were to come and won't leave after asking them to do so once, then they are trespassing and to call the police. Not exactly reassuring, but at least I know what to do (i.e. don't ignore them if they happen to come by and knock on the door.
I was also told we could get a restraining order, but then they would know for sure where we live, though I'm pretty sure they already do.
This has also lead me to being more paranoid when we are outside. I really don't like the kids to be out of my sight, even if it is just on the other side of the house. I had thought that when out oldest gets old enough he could ride his bike to school. I'm not sure I would let him do that now (even though it is a few years away). My DH mentioned us moving, but then I pointed out to him that we live in a great neighborhood and have a great support system here. I really don't want to let bio's dictate how I live my life. Yes, I realized they already do to an extent as I am afraid to let the kids playoutside without me there, but I'm not going to let them "make" me move.