Lying

Hi Cupcake17, I am reading your post kind of late; but hopefully your situation has gotten better for you. Its safe to say the honeymoon is over! We were all teenagers at one time, and teens are known for telling fibs, some are better than others, but it comes with the territories when raising teenagers, especially today with Generation X. Consider the quirkiness of a teenager already, self center and over the top drama; plus add their background, behavior issues that are known or not, abandonment issues, and lack of nurturing. Not knowing your situation; but kids in the system have a lot of catching up to do, beside the normal teenager blues. We as parents must be very understanding not just with our own bio kids, but especially with kids that come from broken homes. We have so much love to offer them and thatҒs a balancing act with correction. Ive learned from my own parents; they were the parents and I was the child, and I always knew their love was unconditional! Kids from broken homes take time; the love you give now will someday be returned if not sooner. When my bio kids were teens, I swear I wanted to wish them into the corn field at least once a week lol. Trust, understanding, and patients; balancing act itҒs certainly is. Good luck Attended Foster Care Orientation 11/19/2010 Application submitted 11/21/2010 State foster home application accepted 3/1/2011 Medical Physicals 2/2011 County Interviews 3/2011 Classes start & finished 4/14/2011-6/23/2011 First Aide classes 6/30/2011 Passed Home Inspection (State) 11/02/2011 Live scans; county and state: started 4/26/2011 finally ended 9/2011 Due to Riverside County miss placing or not transmitting prints First half of our Home study completed 12/22/2011 Second half of our Home study completed 01/ 05/2012 FINALLY APPROVED and officially on waiting list 05/08/2012 due to under staffing at Riverside County. First placement: 6/10/2012 until 8/01/2012; we miss them so much.:female: :female: :female:

Fairly typical teenager. Trust and honesty is a huge thing for us as well but the reality is teens are going to lie particularly when it comes to girls/boys or parties. Our rule in our house is always if you tell the truth the consequence will be less than if you lie. (sometimes works sometimes doesn't depending on if they think they can get away with it) And consequences are short, so they can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have friends who have daughters who are incredible athletes, good in school but use their cell phones and sneak out to meet friends/guys in the middle of the night- completely out of character behavior, until now. Good luck :grouphug: