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I put up an ad in the neighborhood for a roommate and I met a woman I will never forget. When we started talking about why she is looking for a new apartment I couldn't believe what she said until I saw some documentation from her. She is not computer savvy at all, she could not have made these papers and since she is not asking me for money or anything I don't see why she would make it up.
She says she got pregnant and was talked out of an abortion by a church. They let her stay halftime with two different families and thought she had met the nicest people in the whole world. She started studying for her GED and tried to get a job.
They didn't mention "adoption" until after it was too late to abort. By that time she was also showing and the alcohol smell in bars was bothering her so much she could not keep working. This woman seems just a little slow to me and they put some powerful headlights on her.
The man who got her pregnant was married and quickly and happily signed away his rights before the baby was even born. Her questions were answered with things like don't worry we'll take care of you. I feel like they took care of her the way Tyson took care of the chicken in my sandwich.
So she's back to work now and looking for a place. She says she's tried to revoke the adoption a few times but they say she can't. They've given a few different reasons. She needs to repay for her room and board while pregnant first. She needs to get the father to agree. She was even threatened with arrest once at the Lawyers office.
She needs to know people might stand behind her before its too late. She's afraid to go public, and since I just got Services off my back about my son I don't want to really very much either. She told me if she would have kept her baby she would have named her Chrystall.
I made this page for her, I am going to show her. I am going to try to get her to get her baby back before its too late!
[url]https://www.facebook.com/pages/Justice-for-Chrystall/553743381322713?fref=ts[/url]
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I wasn't going to reply to this. The statements don't make sense to me, or in the context of MY state laws. I don't know PA's.
She needs an attorney. No excuses, because there is no way she or you can handle it yourselves. I would suggest starting with legal aid.
If she voluntarily relinquished her rights, she has to prove fraud or duress led her to sign. If she hasn't, then the adoption can't take place.
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Shes got some pretty official looking documents and she's obviously just had a baby 2 weeks ago. I don't see how she could fake lactation.
What I read says she has 30 days, but I have know way of knowing if that was up to date. Courts are slow is this just a way of making people think there babies can be recovered?
I'm trying to find her again. I need to gather more before I do. She will probably be my roommate soon but is staying with alternate friends until, then.
30 days to what? Without knowing what the documents are and contain, no one is able to offer any advice. What did she sign?
Addressing some of the points you included, she does not owe her child in return for lodging. She should go to the police if this was actually said to her. It's too close to kidnapping, for my taste.
In my state, a father can't "sign away his rights" before a child is born. Paternity must be established if the birth parents aren't married to each other.
Also, if his rights HAVE been terminated, there is no reason she needs his permission to do anything...because he no longer has those rights. Which is it? I'd look at that.
They can't arrest her for backing out, so that was just a threat to get her to comply.
Lastly, I would be concerned about her ability to parent without a support system and preferably family support.
She needs to go to the police and legal aid.
She's couch surfing right now but keeps a Manila envalope with her. *All kinds of papers, some glossy pamphlets, some copied, some in carbon triplicate. *Glossy pamphlets are oversimplified and the rest is legalease. *I would think if I just saw these papers she was just giving them temporary rights to authorize medical care if needed.
She's here again today placing some calls. *She can't talk to a legal aid lawyer until after the adoption has been going 30 days. *The police said couldn't even take a report but it's a matter for the courts. *She understood that she could just ask for her daughter back in the first 30 days. *Her paperwork and our web research seems to follow that. *Should we just go to the entrance of the church that they use as pregnant counseling and refuse to leave?
I just got done getting child services out of my life after a nasty divorce and custody battle spawned false allegations. *I wish I could help her but I'm not doin nothing that will jeopardize my kids. *Those people are ruthless and just told her to contact the agency, which us really more of a cult. She us afraid of being judged for being young and underemployed and poor and having a baby with a married man. *She wants her baby but doesn't feel worthy or ready. *I can help a little maybe even a lot if she could help watch my kids for 2nd shift.
I've tried to convince her to put what little money she has into a lawyer. *She's tired of couch surfing understandably and I can't hold this bedroom for her. * If I could find something concrete online, oxymoron I know, that says she can get her baby back with a lawyer she would be more likely to stay home free and do that.
I got more than a few emails accusing me of running some kind of scam here or being a troll because my account is new. *My account is new because I never had anything to say about adoption before. *I will never ask for a cent, we just need advise and support. *I haven't told her about all the bad emails I got but it's hard to deny no one will help.
The church isolated her. *I think I'm probably her only friend. *When she tried to go there and get her baby they guilt her about how happy the new parents were. *When she came filled with liquid courage and refused to leave they threatened her with arrest. When I tried to advocate for her they made me leave saying it was confidential.
What we need is just how to get the baby back. *File small claims? *I have no idea how to file in family court. *and the police won't do anything. *Is there somewhere else I should ask? *Time is running out.*
She was told because the dad agreed to the adoption he is not obliged to pay child support. *Looks like it on the papers too. *She was told she would need to get his permission to undo. *We need to know if we need to talk to him. *Better if we dont.
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It's not that nobody is willing to help your friend. As Crick said in the post above this one, every state has its own laws and regulations concerning the right to revoke the relinquishment documents and consent for adoption.
Out of curiosity, though, why isn't your friend the one asking for help? Are you sure she wants to revoke her consent? I also have never once heard of Legal Aid refusing to help until after the 30-day revocation period is up. Perhaps your friend misunderstood what they were saying.