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Reaching out to all those that have struggled with your childs school for one reason or another.
HereҒs a quick set-up. AS(10yo) struggles with certain behaviors, one is stealing. He has such impulse issues that in the moment he makes bad decisions, sometimes really bad. He has stolen things from home, the store and as of Friday the school. Heres the problem the school, particularly the principal, is so completely naүve to his behaviors because he doesnt ғact like a bad kid at school. Just to get them to implement an IEP (mostly for his ADHD issues) was a massive struggle. IԒve taken counselors and social workers to our school meetings and have had his pscyh doc and neurologist write letters. They still dont get it! Fortunately my son is changing to a different school next year as he advances in grade otherwise, I was recently about to call a lawyer about the principal.
That said, my son comes home from school on Friday with an expensive sweatshirt. The story of how he acquired it changed every other minute so I knew he had ғtaken it. A natural consequence is he has to return it to the school. The question is who would you have him return it to? I refuse to associate with the principal anymore and am just waiting him out until the end of the year. I havenԒt heard from the school social worker since last year when I fought for the IEP and given his grade level and IEP accommodations he has several different teachers. All they need to do is accept the sweatshirt back someone should be able to handle that? Right?
I HATE IT when the schools just dont get it and I am so sick of fighting with them over whatҒs simply for the best interest of my kids. Should I just let it go? What do I do about the sweatshirt?
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is there an assistant principal or a dean of students?
ask yourself what you want to have happen when he returns the sweatshirt. if you expect there to be disciplinary consequences, the person in charge of discipline will have to become involved--usually a principal or assistant principal.
if all you want to do is send the shirt back, anyone could handle it.
Oh, I can relate to this one! The teacher/principal/whoever: oh, he didn't mean to take that, must have been an accident! SURE. And honestly, I got the impression after a few go-arounds that my kid was doing it as much to get away with it as to send me over the edge. So, I developed a plan and laid it out for him: I would inspect his backpack and pockets before school (to verify what went) and both on return. I threw away without reaction anything that wasn't ours and wasn't of any great monitary value (pencils, little cars, candy, etc) and returned to the front desk (without teacher, principal, etc contact) anything that came home of value-- all without involving him or even discussing it with him (of course he was well aware being a little RADlet). LOL, that kid quit bringing home stolen property within the week. And even more entertaining, by the end of the year the teacher and principal were calling me complaining of his stealing. I informed them that they best be looking around the school for the stuff cause he stole no doubt, but never brought any of it home. That was the last I heard...
Thanks everyone, for the advice. I think I'll send him with the shirt and have him give it to his "check-in" person. I really only need them to accept it. It would be nice if they said something to the fact that the lost and found is not a shopping plaza but as I mentioned I have NO expectation that they are that engaged.
He is definitly on a search routine. He doesn't steal things outside the home that often but when he does they tend to be larger items and easily caught.
This school has just been a pain to work with. I have kids in every other school in the district and thankfully they are not all created equal!
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I am dealing with a son that is constantly stealing. I have switched him to a see through backpack...no nice backpack while he is stealing.
I returned all stolen items back to the teacher with a followup email/text. If something comes up missing at home {I forget to check his shoes :arrow: }, I will email her to go through his desk.
I can so relate that some don't get it! Last year, my son's teacher kept telling me well, HE doesn't steal in MY classroom...after awhile, that teacher called me because HE caught my son stealing some of HIS things. I wanted to say, BUT *he* doesn't steal in *your* classroom...:evilgrin:
Seeing as the school year is almost over, hopefully you get school staff next year that will be more on top of things. With my children, it depends on the teacher on what type of year we have. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: