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My oldest has been giving us A LOT of grief lately!! She is suspended from school for 5 days for getting into trouble. She has been doing things with boys that are NOT ok and I just found out about them. There has been some experitmenting with drugs and alcohol. Last yr she ran away. She has had an issue with cutting; that is not an issue as of late.She is grounded; does not leave the house without us excecpt to go to school. That is where most of this is taking place!!! I don't know what to do. She has been in counseling. We keep her busy with family activities, she plays sports. Her grades are ok, they could def. be better. HELP!!!
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We went through this phase, and what worked for us was breaking the peer ties as much as we could -- for us that meant home schooling our son in 10th grade for a semester, and then over the summer keeping him very busy with full time work and close to home. It was almost an audible sigh of relief from our son when we gave him that break in the peer pressure -- he simply couldn't handle it. Then we worked on a safety plan when he went back to school in 11th and he WANTED to make different choices - because of his passion for his sports. High school is like a vortex and if you get sucked into the wrong crowd, it is almost impossible to get out. And if our kids struggle with any particular issue (adoption, or whatever) it can be BRUTAL. Honestly, my advice is -- if it is SCHOOL that is the issue, break the school tie. Home school, or private school, or ?? If she was predominately a good kid before, I can promise you that will come back -- you just have to stick to your guns and get through this phase. For us, that lasted almost a year. Today at age 18.5 my son is actually human again ;) pleasant, successful and nice to have around. At age 15.5 I was pretty sure I would kill him before he was 16 ;)