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I currently have a 19 month old foster daughter who will most likely be adopted by me. I have been asked to take on a sibling set of 2 more girls - a 21 month old and an 8 month old. I am a full time teacher and a single parent. My concern is that they are so close in age to my fd and would I be able to handle 3 children under the age of 2. Has anyone taken on a placement close in age to their own child/current placement? How has the child responded? I have a couple weeks before I need to make a decision (in that time they will spend a weekend with me and that should give further insight). I would love to have some input from someone who has done this. I want to make sure that I make the best decision for myself and my currend fd.
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It is funny you posted this because I am currently dealing with a similar issue. We had our first placement last night a 10 month old and now they want us to take his 4 year old sister. I really want to but I am so scared of getting in over our heads. You want to do the right thing but its just so difficult.
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Mmh..that's a lot of littles, being single. How is your support system? Do you have close friends /family that could help you out. If needed? Is your car big enough for 3 car seats? Is this a longterm placement, that might also go for adoption? How would your daughter feel if they stay for a year or more, then leave?
Do you have a good daycare available, so YOU can get things done without 3 babies ....like hair salon, Dr & dentist., shopping etc?
Is daycare covered by your agency?
Just some thoughts :)
if you feel you got this, then do it. But if you feel it's too much and too disruptive for you and your daughter, then don't.
best wishes!!!
I have thought through a lot of these things and evaluated my past fostering experiences. I think that I would be capable of doing it, but I think that it would be very stressful and it would be longer term. When I'm really stressed I'm not the best parent that I can be. I've decided to not take this placement. I'm not even going to have them come for the weekend. I don't want to put them through the trauma of staying with someone they don't know when I'm just going to say no. If they were bios to my current placement there would be no hesitation, I would do it, but they are not. It always breaks my heart to say no, though. I have to make the best decision for my current family.
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