Part-time homeschooling and IEP

Firecracker has not done well this year in school... Her social skills are terrible: when she is around kids her age she becomes a bully and also becomes very inappropriate to try and make friends. She's also still been stealing from teachers and students, still sexually inappropriate at school, and now she says all of the kids hate her (which I don't think is an exaggeration), because she has been so mean to them all year, and now they are being mean back. She complains that they are making fun of her for having been in foster care, but SHE is the one who was bragging about that! After trying and trying to work with the school on these issues, and no solution to be found... and I'm also sick her her having massive tantrums at home when her poor behavior at school was not addressed... I've decided the best solution for our family is to enroll her in virtual school online for next year. My plan is to send her to school for 1 or 2 classes (i'll pick her favorite subjects- she has an A in math, but an F in English) at a public school, and then the rest of her classes she will do online. She has done extremely well at home for the past 4 months (except for the tantrums due to what occurred at school). Once she maintains an A or a B in the class and good behavior, then I'll add another class the next semester. Hopefully then I can wean her back into school, while giving her the time (and helping her earn) for extracurricular activities to help her learn appropriate social skills where I can monitor her. I enrolled her in one online class for the summer so we can give this a try before the fall. All of this to say: The school finally completed the psych assessment I requested back in September to have the RAD put into the IEP, and they are now scheduling the IEP meeting for the end of this month. That's right- I scheduled a meeting in the beginning of the year so we could get her off to a good start, and they are now going to address these issues two weeks before school ends :grr: . I need some help brain storming ideas of things I want put in the IEP to help my part-time homeschooling plan help her re-integrate. So, I'm thinking she should be required to bring home daily reports from her classes, and be required to sit away from other kids in the class (not in a group- we've had MANY issues with this). What else? I know the school isn't going to suggest anything, they haven't been very successful or helpful in managing her behavior, nor have they been consequencing her. Any ideas for the IEP would be helpful.