I am feeling so pressured!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What if you went someplace where you would not have to interact with her very much? Like a movie? You can all have nachos or hotdogs, or whatever they sell at theater concession stands that can pass for dinner.

Nope not in this litttle town. They alloted one hour for therapy and one hour for dinner

Boy, I was really steamed when I read this, and your comment that they scheduled an hour for counseling, and an hour for dinner. This is called "bait and switch" -- you agree to one thing, they deliver another. It seems to me to be the same as what's been happening all along: they don't grant the seriousness to the drama and emotional abuse, the constant lies, that this child has dealt out, and is still capable of dealing out. It seems that they're treating this like some disagreement between co-workers, that could use 20 minutes of mediation, then be healed. I wonder if there's any chance that you could have the *counselor* say something to the department like, "The family unit isn't ready to spend time alone yet. The point of counseling is that they spend time with someone who can observe all parties, and help heal damage, help establish new patterns of communication. Please refrain from scheduling the transportation for anything else except the counseling sessions, until I let you know that would be appropriate." In the short run, I wonder if your husband would compromise by going to dinner with your dtr himself, with you able to do something else during that time. a) Sit in counselor's waiting room, he can pick you up when finished b) Be in another restaurant c) Whatever -- but something that doesn't require you to even ride in the car with the 2 of them alone. Your stress level over this seems to be at a PTSD type level, and everyone needs to be responsive to that, in my opinion. Most of all, the Dept. needs to cut this bait and switch stuff out. Perhaps if you have anything from the last SW who said she realized you were right, that you could print out, that would help convince new people involved with the case. Or not -- it's always a crap shoot, eh?

It is still that worker LOL. She waxes and wanes so much and she won't say anything like that in front of anyone cause they are worried we will sue I am sure. My husband emailed them and told me we are not ready for that and to direct all future communication to him NOT ME.

Can you attend therapy and your husband can then take your daughter for the second hour while you shop? Go to eat at a place where there are stores and shopping. When you get there, say "I'm going to walk around a bit" and then head to a book store or coffee shop for some 'alone' time.

well we turned it down and it sure came back to bite us in the butt! See my other post.