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Hello ladies. I wanted to introduce myself as I will likely be following many of you and have already been reading some of your stories.
About 3 years ago I saw an RE who dx me with premature ovarian failure (I was 30 y/o). We were devastated but even as a little girl I wanted to adopt. We started the process, finished background, homestudy and received our court approved adoption papers to put our profiles out on Dec 23rd. On Dec 24th I got a positive pregnancy test. Everyone, including my RE, called her a true miracle and were in disbelief! We are now proud parents of a 22 month old little girl.
We debated at that time whether to continue with the adoption process but in a way felt guilty that we were now pregnant and wanted to give the opportunity to another set of parents. Adoption has always been in my heart. My most frequent dream is that of my adopted twins. The dream is so vivid, so real that I wake up with a sense of complete relief.
We are now ready to have a 2nd child (waited as our 1st had some medical challenges) and know that our fertility issues are still here. Adoption is something that we are both ready to try for again and I am excited about the adventure. We plan to go with the same SW and 2 attorneys that we were going to go with previously.
Just a few questions:
1. Do any of you think that b/c I had 1 bio child that it will be harder to adopt now? I still have the same infertility issues that I did before (now even worse based upon recent U/S's).
2. When making our parent profile - how much of our daughter should we include? I know this sounds funny but don't want the entire book to be about her b/c that is not why someone would likely select us.
3. It seems like many of you have received your child very quickly. Does anyone know the difference in time between agency vs attorney?
4. Any recommendations / suggestions regarding using a referral service AND attorneys?
I can't wait to share this journey with you ladies. I am so blessed for this site and what is to come in the future.
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Thanks liz mom! Was hoping for some responses too. We are leaving on vacation soon but our goal is to have are application in by the end of July. Then comes the home study which went fairly quickly before. We are trying to work thru starting on our portfolio as well. I looked at some examples online who has kids and many have like 1 page devoted to them but more about the parents ant family.
True, some EM's may prefer their child to not have to compete with a biological child.. but other mom's will like that their kid has a sibling.
The child that was meant for you will find you
when it comes to your life books, i truly believe you should honestly write what's in your heart.. it might not be what one mom is looking for, but it'll be exactly what another desires
best of luck
We turned in our home studies application. We are officially signing with the agency in August. So looks like we are in the same place :) I have bio b/g twins that will be 9 on 8/4 that were conceived thru IVF. It was a long hard pregnancy and we almost lost them. There were too many risks to even try again and in Jan I had to get an edometrial ablation so not that door is really closed. We have talked about adopting since the twins were babies. We are now finally at a place where we can do it!!! We are all beyond excited! This baby might get smothered :DETA.. we have sent in the application and were accepted into the adoption program... we just need to give them $$$$$ to get it officially going ;)
Wcurry - agree with what you said. I know in my heart that the right baby is out there for us. I love my daughter but know that I will love my adopted child just as much. I hope the future mother that trusts me with the precious gift of adoption will learn this about us and see the benefits that we feel siblings can offer.Liz - sounds like we will be waiting buddies soon. They said since we really just have to recertify the process should be fairly quick....crossing fingers. Pls keep us posted.
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There are so many people on here with vastly different backgrounds who've adopted...just goes to show different emoms look for different things.
We used a referral agency who linked us to several agencies and also called us about situations though attorneys. We didn't wait very long the first time. I believe it was in part due to the fact that our profile was shared with so many different agencies.
We're trying this again, with a very limited budget, so we expect to wait this time. So much of it depends on a variety of things...what you're open to, how many emoms/families see your profile, etc. Basically, though, it boils down to the emom/eparents who are looking for someone like you seeing your profile. Good luck to you!
We are in a similar place except our first daughter was very easy to conceive and now we are dealing with infertility our second go around. Several cycles including two IUIs have left us with no second child and less money than before. We are looking at agencies now for domestic adoption because the state won't accept new applications unless we are willing to go out of birth order. There is a local agency that we might be willing to use, though I have cursory knowledge about adoption and the process I feel so uninitiated. I spoke with the director, an MSW, today and they do adoption services for international and mainly infant adoptions. That is probably the route we would take because of the foster issue. The cost is daunting and we aren't interesting really so I'm not sure exactly how it is going to play out
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Your agency might give suggestions on how to include your daughter in your profile. I think ourse just says that you should include your child, but you should also have at least one picture of the each of you that doesn't include the child, which I think makes sense.We also have a bio child and are adopting for our second.Best wishes!