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Hello
It was suggested to me to 'cross post' my attempts to write that first letter to my birth mother. And that you all might give me a different perspective, etc. I would appreciate any advise or suggestion you can impart. Please be totally candid; it's what I need.
I do intend to hand write it on nice stationary when I am content with it. (Will I ever be content with it? LOL)
Hugs to all of you!
Sierra61
Dear XXXX,
Please allow me to identify myself to you. My name is XXXX. I was born July 26th, 1961 at St. Annes in Los Angeles, CA. At birth, I was given the name XXXX and I am the natural daughter of XXXX and XXXX. Recently, I discreetly received this information through anonymous ґsearch angels on the internet. And you and I have been, and forever will be, connected because I believe you are my mother.
All my life I have thought long and hard about writing this letter, and I certainly do not want it to cause any distress or problems in your life. You do not know me now, but I have always known you with my heart.
IҒve known about you since I was a small child; I have always been adopted. I have never thought bad of you. I do not judge you and I will never tell you what you did was wrong.
I know this is a lot of information coming to you all at once, but if I only get this one chance to share myself you, these are some of the things Id like you to know about me:
My loving adoptive parents were XXXX, and I was given the name XXXX. My parents were always very open and wonderfully supportive of me and my adoption. I had an older brother, XXXX, who was also adopted. And I had a younger sister, XXXX, who was my parentsҒ natural daughter. We lived in North Hollywood, CA when I was small, and then we moved to Santa Clarita, CA. Thats where I grew up, and what I consider to be my hometown. IҒve also lived in Snohomish, WA, and now live in Reno, NV.
One of my favorite activities as a child was swimming; I swam competitively for nearly 10 years. I was a lifeguard in my teens and gave swimming lessons to kids. I can still swim very well to this day.
I went to Wm. S. Hart High School and I have an A.S. degree in Mathematics and Science from College Of The Canyons. I studied to be an environmental biologist, but I ended up a happy mother of a big family. I have worked as a superintendent at a fairground; at restaurants; as a test administrator; and a clean-room assembler of bio-medical devices, to name a few.
I have been married since 1979 to my husband XXXX. We have six wonderful, now adult children and two fantastic grandsons: XXXX (Father of XXXX); XXXX; (Mother of XXXX); XXXX(twin); XXXX(twin); XXXX; and XXXX.
My most favorite activity is definitely going up into the mountains or woods. Camping, fishing, hiking, rafting, exploring, or simply sitting next to a stream and I feel I am at my best. When I cannot do that, I enjoy crochet, especially dying my own yarn.
My life is what it is today because of you. I believe that life is truly full when there is joy, love, laughter, and yes, even tears. I know that I am totally blessed to have such a full life. True, it would have been different, but I cannot say it would have been either better or worse. I am a now product of what I have lived and experienced.
My heart has always been full of love for you. I spent 9 months growing right under your heart, and I believe your love must have poured into my tiny heart to help me be the woman I am today.
I hope you can understand, at least a little, my need to reach out to you. To tell you that Im okay and that I so hope you are okay too. I have total admiration when I think of what you went through to give me the life I have now. I marvel at the courage you must have had as a young woman to go through what you did.
I just need to know that you are alive, and if I can, IҒd like to know what life has been for you since we parted. Id like to know you. I so hope your life was blessed with many wonderful things. If I do not get the opportunity to be familiar with you, please know that you will always be in my prayers.
I am sure receiving this letter comes as a shock to you. It is my deepest hope that you can forgive my intrusion. I understand you may have fears and uncertainty, but please know I will pose no threat to you. I will not confront you; I would never disturb your privacy by turning up unannounced. I would truly just like to know you.
Please also know that I do not want to impose myself on anyone. I will take your ґlead on how, or if, you want to continue contact. I am hoping we could exchange letters and perhaps have a phone call or meeting in the future, but only if you are willing. You can call me; email me; IҒve included a S.A.S.E. so you could write to me.
I understand that you will need time. And I am content to wait; I want to respect your decision regarding any contact, even if it is a noӔ. I will be okay with that. Which ever way is most comfortable for you, would you please contact me that you have received this letter and what your wishes are?
I hope you found peace regarding my birth so long ago. And if in some way you did not find total peace with it, I pray that maybe I am able to bring you a small amount peace now with this letter.
Your Daughter,
XXXX
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