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Hi,
Long story short Catholic charities called me said both biryh Parents were searching and I had letters from both waiting for me. I went today got the letters read them 20 times now and I feel excited but very nervous. After reading the letters I sent the Identifying forms in and now the waiting game begins to get match to bp who are already registered. I now have to wait 2 weeks because of govt intrusion. I did ask Catholic Cahrities to let BP know that they need to contact me first since I just wouldnt know what to say. A parents are all over me wanting know every detail and it seems to be on the brink of going bad with the AP if I choose to have a relationship with the BP do I lie to AP about certain things to keep the balance or do I just lay it on them truthfully and it is what it is? Also what is there really for me to talk about I run a scenario and I really dont want to know more than I already know as far as the adoption reasoning. The way I see it I could have been placved in a dumpster but I wasnt. So, Reunions what is there to really say?
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Hi I was adopted at birth and when I met my birth mom I didn't really know what else to say besides hi my name is Mary and I'm your daughter why did you give me up for adoption? After the first few minutes of awkwardness that went by we just started asking questions about or likes and dislikes and from there we starting really talking about our lives and everything pretty much. So maybe just start talking about your likes and dislikes with them and what's going on in your life and then ask them about their life and their likes and dislikes. Maybe from there you will find some common ground and hit it off. Your adopted parents should support you. But if they don't that's okay. They may just feel a little hurt or apprehensive about you meeting your birth parents because they feel like they aren't good enough. You never know until you try. But I would be honest with your adopted parents and just tell them how you feel about it all and tell them you aren't trying to replace them. Just let them know you still love and care about them. Hopefully it all goes well!
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bigT,I see that your post was over a month ago. I'm sorry no one posted until today. Sometimes we miss posts.I haven't told my a-family that I am in contact with my b-family. It's just a lot easier that way.It can get really tense, really quickly if you allow your a-parents to be involved. Just keep them assured that your relationship with them will not change regardless of what happens with your b-family.