I am done for myself

I am done. I have been pushed too far. I am getting off this roller coaster ride. I love her but I can't have a relationship with her. Had our meeting with the worker, her supervisor and our attorney. Of course they blamed the 3 weeks without contact on the contract change. Found out the entire foster homes girls all snuck out plus their bio daughter so 5 in total, went to town, got drunk, my daughter had sex with someone over 18, they are doing a criminal investigation. She has to retake 2 classes to graduate, good luck! She obviously has a place to stay when she is 18 or is trying to find one because the worker said she specifically asked her if she could do anything about it if she left at 18 and stayed elsewhere. The worker was shocked to find out she had been demanding visits from us and actually went so far as to help set parameters of such visits in therapy. She has been telling the worker and her foster mom and her personal visits she wants NO visits but phone calls are okay. We went for a session with her therapist and the therapist emailed me the next day and said she thought she would work with her 2 times a week for the next month and THEN see about family therapy. I emailed back and said that is fine but I am not going to be manipulated forever so you may contact us if and when you think it's appropriate and we will see where we are at. THE CAPPER: This child is supposedly in BIG trouble for the boozing, sex etc but the foster parents drove her 40 miles to OUR town for the parade last night. WE were NOT notified and they let her roam apparently. I got multiple text message from people. REally You drink, go out and get laid and get rewarded? Nice. Amazing we didn't run into her as out own is about 1,000 people. I told my husband I am done. I would say Hi on the phone calls and if visits ever happened I would go and be silent because I am NOT giving her what she wants a successful triangulation. But I am DONE!!!!!!!!!!