Really REALLY fed up with bio mom and my agency

I actually would refuse to send DH without you. It is not a good set up doing in. Sure, they can have a meeting without FP's but they can't pick which one to allow. The agency letting bmom do this is just a big of problem bmom's manipulation and power play. I can't see anything good coming out of it. If she doesn't want you physically present and will allow you to participate via phone conference, that might be acceptable, but allowing the bmom to choose which parent comes. No way!