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I found my birth mother and father about 2 weeks ago. I spoke with my maternal grandmother first, and then I spoke with my half brother (who never knew about me). About a week later I spoke with my birth mother and my birth father on the same day. My father has been absolutely amazing! He told his whole family about me. I have a brother and 2 sister's on his side. I have spoken to the oldest sister and my brother. Everyone has been so loving and accepting and just down right excited. My father has called/e-mailed me every day since he found out and we are meeting this weekend. He only lives 20min from me. He wants to take me to dinner and then take me back to meet the whole family. I am terrified! First of all, my dad's family is vietnamese. My father has a very strong accent and I can not understand him sometimes. My brother and sister speak english and have no accent so no problem with communication there, but my grandma, grandpa, and aunt don't speak ANY english. That is one of my worries. The other's are normal I guess. What if he doesn't like me? What if we have nothing to talk about? What if he doesn't like the way I turned out? Anyone with any advice, or has gone through this, PLEASE HELP!
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It sounds like your fears are fairly typical, aside from the language barrier.You've either talked on the phone or emailed him ever day for about the past two weeks. I really think your fears are unfounded. You clearly have plenty to discuss, and overall the two of you understand one another.And, other family members can translate when you're talking to your grandparents and aunt.It's normal to worry about whether you'll be liked. Just be yourself. That's all you can do.I'm glad that you will go out to dinner with him first before meeting everyone else. That's nice. You need some time alone.I hope things go well for you!
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