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My name is Suzanne. I was born 12/12/1979 at St. Therese's Hospital in Illinois. My mother was very young when she gave birth to me and could not take care of me at that time. She put me up for adoption through The Cradle right there in Evanston, Il. She wrote me a letter the day I was born, but it is all I have of her. Besides me of course. I would really like to know more...to know her. I am sceptic these things ever really work. I just think if I am anything like her, then she needs to see me too. I couldnt go through my life never knowing how my daughter was. Maybe this will make its way to her somehow....fingers crossed.
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Hi Suzanne. I make no promises, but I do suggest that you hold off on your skepticism for the time being. There are many adoptees here on these forums who are in reunion with their birth families. So there's cause for hope that you can find your birth mother as well.
I don't know what searching, if any, you have done, but the first place to start might be through the agency that handled your adoption. Can you contact them, and ask if there's any information (usually non-identifying) they can provide you?
Since you're in Illinois, you can also contact your state's Vital Records department to gain access to your original birth certificate. (Not all states provide this - Illinois does.) The website is [url=http://www.idph.state.il.us/vitalrecords/vital/non_certified.htm]Illinois Vital Records - Adoption Records[/url]
I think you'll find that many of us here understand what you mean about wanting to know more... most, though not all, adoptees do.
I wish you luck in your search.
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As an a-mom, I encourage you to find her and give her a chance. There are no two adoption stories, not two situations that are the same, but give her a chance. I know I would LOVE for my son's bmom to see him just one more time. She, too left him a letter. and I will cherish it forever and it will always be his link. She died when he was 7 months old so he will never know her. (and I knew her for a short 8 months.) Her story is not pretty (it's actually Lifetime movie worthy) but I loved her. And I know she had a love for him that is hard to define. Keep an open mind. God bless as you head down this journey!
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Suzanne,
Good luck with your search. I, too, am an IL-born adoptee. Please look into the link to Illinois Vital Records that emerald23 provided for you.
As long as your mom did not specifically request to have her information redacted, her name will be on your OBC.
(And, very few mothers have chosen to redact their information.)
Good luck!!!
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sak9645
Why don't you approach The Cradle and see what people there can do for you?
Sharon
Suzanne should probably request her OBC through Illinois Vital Records and contact The Cradle.
Even though OBCs are now available for most of us in IL (as long as our mother's have not specifically requested that their names be redacted), agencies still conceal identities.
I had my OBC in hand before contacting the maternity home or the adoption agency. I had already talked with both of my parents. Still, the home and the agency were very careful not to divulge identities.
But, The Cradle may have solid non-identifying information that would be helpful. Also, if you find that you are unable to locate your mother with just the info available on the birth certificate, The Cradle may offer search services.
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I just think if I am anything like her, then she needs to see me too
Aww bless you for that empathy. I hope you find each other.
Don't be sceptical. My son and I have reunited (he is very close in age to you, and I was very young too when I had, and lost, him) and they have been the happiest years of both of our lives. We needed each other and we found each other. I hope you do too, and that it is happy for both of you.
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