Advertisements
We are waiting to be matched, so we are still early on in the process, but I got to thinking about something and was hoping to get some input from others here. :)
We are a military family, so moving is inevitable. We don't plan on giving our home address to Bios (we will give a P.O. box address in case they want to send letters, gifts, etc)...but how what is the best way to let them know you are moving? Are there any issues we should know about ahead of time?
Thanks for any advice!
Like
Share
It really depends on the situation and the relationship you have with the birthparents.I don't think it's something you can even figure out at this point. For us personally, if we moved states, I don't see how it would affect LOs birthparents unless we were moving closer to them as we already live in a different state. We're working on building a relationship but it's mainly one sided right now and I don't feel an obligation to keep them aprised of where we are living. They have an email address for me, a phone number, and a fb contact in the form of a page for our daughter and they can reach us through the agency. It looks like you'll be doing foster adopt - so you'll have to consider is it even safe for them to know in general terms where you live (city, etc). You'll have to consider the reasons for TPR and their attitude about it. You may have an open relationship, you may not.If you have a good open relationship that involves visits, you'll have to tell them at some point and discuss how it will affect visits. If you don't have visits, then does it even matter?
Advertisements
We are a Marine family and adopted our little girl almost a year ago. We have a closed adoption for safety reasons but set up an email account for them to email with us for many reason: we can keep track of their location as they move all around, medical info from them, and info on siblings or future siblings that might come along. When they are doing drugs they are very chatty via email and send me all kinds of info without me having to ask for it. I even got a picture of my little one's foot prints that were done at birth and some baby pictures. They do not know our last name, location of where we live, or what branch of service my husband is in. It all depends on the situation of the little ones you are matched with. Also just an FYI if you are matched with an adoptive placement you can take up to 21 days of free leave to use. We used them divided up to cover days off for transition visits, court hearings, and then leave after the adoption finalized to visit family for a celebration. Go on Military One Source for more info on it to give to the command as most do not know about the adoption leave guidelines. Good luck!!!