Birthdays?

She is going to be 10, ask her what she prefers. But, if they are moving outside of the area they used to live in I would probably want do just a very small family thing. I would want only with those who live in the house, plus maybe grandparents or those she has already met - Plus ask her if she has one or two close friends she would like to do something special with and do something, maybe her favorite restaurant or arcade type place and take her with just those close friends. That way it probably won't be too overwhelming and she still gets to celebrate with her friends.

We generally don't do birthday parties. Our kids get the option of choosing something special they want to do or someplace special to go. Last year our son chose to go to Legoland for his birthday, our daughter chose Busch Gardens. Our foster son chose Animal Kingdom and our foster daughter chose a local fun park where we rode go karts and played mini golf and ate pizza all day long. They do get to chose one friend to come with them - in addition to family.Those kind of options may be overstimulating right now for your daughter, but we've found that birthdays are great family-get together days :)

give her a couple choices and let her lead you our kiddo had been here 6 months by the time her birthday rolled around and she wanted a great party, she got it too :cake: her baby sister was placed with another family and she had a birthday party during their visits, before she even moved in :popcorn: I wasn't real sold on that idea and ultimately the placement didn't work out :grrr: for different reasons of course, just a side note. I say follow the childs lead. I don't think ours would have wanted a party if it had been early on, but she definitely wanted and deserved one later and we'd have accomodated her request either way.