What are the odds of actually finding birth givers? Very slim to none.

Feb171983, read your post and can offer a long shot.The court where your final adoption took place holds the records for that adoption.You may be able to get an Adoption Decree through that court system. It will list at least the name of your b-mom, and if she named him, the name of your b-father.States keep the adoption records in the county in which the final adoption hearing took place. Those records will contain very little personal info regarding the b-parents. They are a record of what the court did at that hearing.However, if your state has sealed records in effect, the b-names may be classified as identifying, in which case they would be difficult to obtain.My suggestion is to go to the Clerk of the Orphans Court where your adoption was finalized to get the information regarding the info you seek. You may not have your b-parents names, but at least b-moms name will be in the adoption decree.If it is a requirement of your state that only official state forms will be recognized by the court, the clerk will send them free. The clerk will not give legal advice and once you send in the official forms, there is no guarantee you will get the information. The judge will rule on that aspect.I wish you the best.

As a bmom I had my son's birth date and hospital of birth. I found him because he had registered on this site with that same information.

I believe that I have found my brother's biological mother, and I had very little information. What did I have? I knew her age at the time of his birth. I knew the countries her ancestors came from. I knew the city my brother was born in. I knew the agency from which he was adopted. And, I had a copy of his amended baptismal certificate. That's it. No name. No hometown. So, I looked for local high schools near the church where he was baptized. I then went onto Classmates.com and looked for yearbooks for those schools. I found one for the year in which his mother presumably would have been a senior. I went to the senior picture's section of that yearbook, and I quickly found a young woman who looked remarkably like my niece (and brother). I, then, did more research. Everything, so far, matches up. I'm 85% certain that I have found my brother's mother. It's amazing how much information is out there. Many schools and yearbook websites have alumni pages in which all of the students are listed. You could find those lists for all of the schools within that small city. Then, try to find pictures of those individuals. You may bear the kind of uncanny resemblance that my brother appears to bear to his mother's side of the family. You might also want to do DNA testing, such as 23andMe. Many people are only able to find 2nd or 3rd cousins through it. But, I have also heard of adoptees finding their biological family. You could then triangulate the information and see if any of your matches on 23andMe are related to any of the women whose first names match up with the name you have. You might also want to try a free search angel. Some of them are remarkably adept at finding a needle in a haystack. Along with Drywall's suggestions, that's all I know. It can be exhausting. Even after learning my father's full name and knowing which state he lived in, it took me six months to find him. Wishing you the best of luck!

Thanks. My state has sealed records. That makes this impossible, wouldn't it?

Have you registered on any of the adoption registries?

Thanks. Wow, I'm really surprised you found a good seeming match. Is he unique looking or have distinguishing traits or race? I have a first name and city, surely I could find potential matches if you could find a match with no name at all. I looked at Classmates.com and found at least 5+ people with this woman's first name and expected graduation year. I googled the names and ruled out one's that were another race or impossibly the right person (such as people who had kids that same season/year and couldn't have possibly had me a few months before). I looked at some of these woman's adult children on social sites to see if there was any resemblance. I didn't see it. I kept thinking "maybe that's her"-- but, I mean, I'm a pale white person. Every pale white English person kind of looks like they could possibly be related. I have no distinguishing characteristics or race. A few of these woman looked completely NOT like me-- way too tan, dark hair, probably another race altogether. I contacted libraries and had them look for photos of a few names over the span of a few years. No photos of the woman in the yearbooks I gave them with names I found off of Classmates.com. I picked the one that seemed like the most likely match, and e-mailed the reunion registry of my state with "updated contact info for WOMAN'S NAME*. I added the last name of the person I thought might be a match (based off of her age, graduation year/high school, online photos, etc.). No response. I don't think I have the last name accurately. I've never found a search angel to help. Been on this site almost 7 years. I don't think there are really any real search angels still on this site. Now what? 23andme apparently has been suspended by the FDA. So, that's out too. :( Ugh!

My brother is primarily of Irish descent, so he's also a pale, white person.But, the picture of the woman looked remarkably like my niece, and a picture of the woman's brother (presumably my brother's uncle) looked remarkably like my brother.I do have to say that this woman's children do not look like my brother. Well, they, too, are pale, but nothing remarkable. Keep in mind that half-siblings only share about 25% of their DNA, so you may not resemble them much at all. (I do not look like mine. I showed a picture of one of mine to my best friend. My half-brother was holding a dog, and my friend said, "You look more like the dog.")Sadly, you could gloss right over your mother's picture because she doesn't look much like you. (Some family's have that cool Baldwin family resemblance. Others don't. I just lucked out with my brother. He seems to highly favor his mother--moreso than any of the other children.)If someone had shown me a yearbook page and said that my mother's picture was on the page, I would not have guessed the correct woman.BUT, the FDA has only suspended the health portion of the information. They basically are concerned that people will take that information and get unnecessary medical testing. At least that's what I have found from just doing a quick search right now. (I didn't know that the FDA had suspended that part of the operation.) So, it would seem that you can still do the ancestry testing part and attempt to find some relatives. They just won't be able to tell you what diseases you are at risk of getting.I think that using DNA combined with name searches on school alumni websites or classmates.com, etc., might help you to narrow things down.