Can't wait, need help

I must be missing something. Why do you need to wait two years to contact him? Why is your first-mother angry?

My mother won't let me contact him until I'm 18.

I just replied to your other thread and see you answered my question here.I'd start by sitting down and writing out for yourself your thoughts on why it's so important to meet him. Try to articulate why it's important - the genetic bond, wanting to know where you came from etc. This will help you better talk with your mom about contacting him. Keep this about you and the relationship with your bio dad, not about your step dad or mom. Take some time to think about your expectations of the relationship as well. Are you ready to deal with things not going as you expect?Then, sit your mom down and ask her why she's so opposed to you meeting your dad. Don't speculate, just ask the question and quietly wait for an answer. Feel free to take time yourself to digest that answer before you move forward in the conversation. Go back to your quiet place, think about her reasons, think about yours and work on crafting a less emotional response to her.Take her reasons into account, and if you still want to pursue this now, let her know, respectfully, why it's important. Let her know that at best she's delaying the inevitable. Let her know how it impacts your relationship with her. Address her fears about you meeting him(you hopefully got those from her in the previous conversation).Good luck. I was 15 when I told my mom I wanted to meet my bio dad. My adoptive step dad was no longer in the picture so I think it was easier for her than your mom. We started writing and met when I was 16. He felt like a stranger at first. It's taken a lot of time to get to where we feel like Dad and daughter. It will never be the relationship we would have had if he'd been in my life all along. It's different than any other dad/daughter relationship I know. It's almost more of close friends who are related than parent/child. It's hard to explain.