In Search of my Biological Grandparents.

Hm.While, as an adoptee and a mother of a little one myself, I understand why you want to know... I'm a firm believer in the right of the adoptee to determine for his/her own self what s/he wants and needs. If you think about it, your father was put up for adoption not at his own request - he was completely out of control/powerless, of course, as he must have been just an infant/small child. As an adult, he has the right to take control - for himself - and decide - for himself - if he wants to search. If you search against his wishes, you're taking the control away from him once more. That doesn't seem fair, to me.If your father has had a good relationship with his adoptive parents, then they ARE your daughter's great-grandparents. If he didn't, then that is sad for him, and for you... but it should still be his call whether he wants to search for his biological relatives.If you search without his okay, it *could* damage your relationship with your father. I'm sure this isn't what you were hoping to hear, but as an adoptee, that's the most honest answer I can give.Good luck.

I just want to clarify.The information you have listed above is for your father's adoptive family. You don't have any information about his biological family, correct?Emerald23 and I usually agree. But, we disagree on this one. If you were searching on his behalf without his well wishes, that would be one thing. But, you want to search for your family for yourself, for your own reasons. (If, however, he isn't on board with the search, you could damage your relationship with your father. And, you need to seriously think about that before proceeding.)You're basically an adoptee once removed. You only know half of your heritage. You only know half of the important medical information, etc. I've heard many adoptees say that adoption is tough on their children, too. The children also lose out.I look at this similarly to when a biological parent doesn't want the adoptee who found him or her to contact any other relatives. It is a conundrum. If the adoptee proceeds, s/he could lose the relationship with the found parent. But, the adoptee shouldn't feel badly about wanting to talk to other relatives.If I were you, I would try to get your father on board and tell him why you want to search. Tell him why it's important to you.