Confused and worried (Colorado)

April 14, 2014

My husband and I went through several phone and email conversations with an agency in CA. Today we were to have our official enrollment interview and we were beyond excited. Then this afternoon someone called and explained that they had not actually looked at our app in detail and saw that we haven't been married long enough for a home study in our state. This is beyond disconcerting because we've had multiple conversations, they had to "pre approve" our initial application before they would even speak to us, and this allowed us to get even more excited about today's interview. My family has been researching this evening and cannot find a single website that indicates a 3 year marriage requirement for a HS in Colorado. The woman was friendly but very nonchalant and basically said, "We'll be here in three years if you still want to adopt." After two miscarriages, this feels like another incredible disappointment. Does anyone know if there is such a requirement in Colorado? How can they allow single parent HS's and yet require a 3 year marriage? I am so confused and feel very defeated. :(

ruth74

April 15, 2014

LaCroix

How can they allow single parent HS's and yet require a 3 year marriage? I am so confused and feel very defeated. :(

I don't know about the marriage length requirement, but I do have an answer for this. They want to see that your current life is stable, which is why, if you are married, there may be a requirement for how long you have been married. It would be the same if someone were divorced or widowed; they would want them to have been single for a similar amount of time to show that their life as it is (with or without a spouse) is a stable one.