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We met with the agency supervisor in February and received the paperwork. We have completed the paperwork, but have not turned it in (holding until meeting with CW), our references have returned their forms long ago, we have been fingerprinted, and are starting classes next week. We will finish classes in July. We have had minimal email contact with worker, mostly initiated by me. We have yet to have a phone conversation or face to face visit with our worker. Is this normal?
We are hoping that when classes are done and she sees we are sticking around we will get more attention. I am concerned that if this is how she is going about it now, how much time is she going to spend looking for a match for us?
We are looking to adopt so are working on the adoption license first, but will get the foster license to help out and move things along. I have had more contact with the foster license worker, and we are not officially working on that until the adoption license is done.
Should I become a squeaky wheel, or be more patient?
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About 3/4 of the people in my class who started the process dropped out before finishing it. So yes, everyone pretty much just waits to see who is still standing after all the classes and all the paperwork is finished.
That said - what kind of contact are you expecting/needing? CPS isn't into hand-holding of any kind with foster parents. Pretty much, if they need something from you, you'll hear from them. And if you need something from them, you call them. Everything else is icing and just not likely to happen.
Not expecting "hand holding", just a phone call to introduce themselves and and overview for expectations. That would have taken her 10 minutes 4 months ago. We are going to scan in our paperwork and get it in next week. I was holding it until we actually had a meeting, now I guess I will drop it off. Then on to classes and see what happens after that.
Not expecting "hand holding", just a phone call to introduce themselves and and overview for expectations. That would have taken her 10 minutes 4 months ago.
We are going to scan in our paperwork and get it in next week. I was holding it until we actually had a meeting, now I guess I will drop it off.
Then on to classes and see what happens after that.
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I would finish the foster care license too. Most children, unless it is a baby where the bio mom chooses a family before the baby is born, is going to be placed as a foster placement (even legally free, pre-adoptive placements).
You can always wait for the legally free child, but it might be a long wait, it will open your options if you are a foster home too. Both of mine came as emergency placements (my current one just happens to be legally free, removed from a pre-adoptive placement - still not sure why, she is wonderful, I think it there was a problem with the family). But if I as not a foster family, open to emergency or at risk placements I wouldn't have either of my girls.
We were originally against the foster license because of the risk, but have warmed to the idea. It was the foster license worker's idea to finish the adoption one first, then things go quicker on her end. Like I said, I have had more interaction with her than the adoption worker. I guess I get that, too. She has no idea that we have no intention of dropping out. Either way, paperwork will be in next week. Classes for adoption will be done in a month. Then I hope the home study gets done in a reasonable amount of time after that. We hope to have both licenses done by fall sometime. Then the waiting begins.
We were originally against the foster license because of the risk, but have warmed to the idea. It was the foster license worker's idea to finish the adoption one first, then things go quicker on her end. Like I said, I have had more interaction with her than the adoption worker. I guess I get that, too. She has no idea that we have no intention of dropping out.
Either way, paperwork will be in next week. Classes for adoption will be done in a month. Then I hope the home study gets done in a reasonable amount of time after that. We hope to have both licenses done by fall sometime. Then the waiting begins.
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They did a big computer system change over in May and I know she was swamped with that. So I tried not to bug her. Once paperwork is in and classes are done she is going to get weekly emails from me until home study is done. After that I will see what level of "bugging" feels appropriate. We will be waiting to adopt a very low risk child, gender specific, with narrow age range. I am aware that could take some time.