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Hello all! Seven years ago we adopted a newborn baby boy after researching adoption options...agency vs lawyer vs foster to adopt. Since then, life has happened, we have grown, and experienced along our way children and families who have needed a fostering home situation. There where times where we have felt great sadness and loss ourselves at not being in a position to help these families. We have a heads up on possible negative situations as my mother used to work for dhs in our area, but years ago. On here most seem to be seeking to adopt. We feel like we could be a positive resource family. How many of you have had POSITIVE strictly fostering situations? Do you feel the system works to benefit the children? Do you feel the rewards outweigh the challenges? I'm seeking input to help me be prepared for what lies ahead. We are working on completing our initial screening packet, and excited at beginning the process.
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We foster and we just adopted. Our goal is not to adopt every child that goes to adoption, but we do plan to adopt one ore child who needs us and fits into our family. We have fostered a baby who moved to a home where she will be adopted at the end of the year. Our system works in my county, and I feel that we have had good experiences here. Currently we have a child from another county that has been a mess, but she is set to RU by next spring, so in the end I think it too will be a good experience.
We do of course miss the kiddos that have moved on, but the system worked for them, so while I am sad, they will be fine and that is what matters. The important thing about fostering only is making that very clear upfront, so when a child is heading to TPR then the dept can move the child to an adoptive home ASAP to begin bonding. We were up front about not wanting to adopt the little girl who left a few months ago, and she was moved as soon as the case was turning to TPR. Good luck! It is certainly worth it, and there are many kiddos who need people willing to love them until they RU or find their forever family.
We had our "informational mtg" this morning. Watched a video urging to accept teens, and pregnant teens. Talked about what their process is, which consists of reading and completing sets of workbooks, and accomplishing a question and answer session with the director after each set of workbooks. Sounds like 1st home visit will be after completion of workbooks 5 & 6, and 2nd home visit will be after she reviews workbooks 5 & 6.
Asked about the bedroom with the door...she said it shouldn't be a problem! I'm relieved. We will appreciate the extra space. Here we go