Please Help!!!

I am not an expert, just sharing info I have heard from others and social workers in my area. Most kids don't go to those sites unless they haven't been able to be placed another way, so yes, typically that means large sibling groups and kids with higher needs. Also, some states are super against even doing matches that way. I don't know if it is because they know those kids are more challenging, or because they feel their own states have enough kids without bringing in others, or if they don't want to work with other jurisdictions, I just know that in some places, it's like pulling teeth to get them to submit your study for those children. That said, I have read about people who have done it with wonderful results, but those stories do seem rare. Good luck, and God Bless!

Here's my perspective. Before a child gets to the photo listings, they have gone through every other option. First, they could not find a kinship placement. Then, they were not adopted by their foster family/families. Then, their social worker was not able to identify a suitable match on their list of waiting families. There is a reason.This is not to say that the reason is a "problem" with the kid. It could be that they are a large sibling group, were disrupted due to no fault of the child, or have a special need that you think is no big deal. From the kids I know who have been on photo listings, I know one who was on there due to being removed to an abusive pre-adoptive family, two who were disrupted due to changes in the potential adoptive family (illness and pregnancy), a few older minority males (most difficult to find placements for) with some baggage, a few with issues that I could potentially handle (learning / intellectual disabilities, manageable behaviors, etc.). And many who were on there due to legitimate issues that are outside my comfort zone (non-minor medical issues, sexual acting out, severe attachment issues, history of violence, etc.)So inquire, but know that there is a reason that the kids made it to the photo listings. Seek out the reason, and then decide if it's within your comfort zone. Ask tons of direct questions, and don't accept indirect answers.

Here's my perspective. Before a child gets to the photo listings, they have gone through every other option. First, they could not find a kinship placement. Then, they were not adopted by their foster family/families. Then, their social worker was not able to identify a suitable match on their list of waiting families. There is a reason. This is not to say that the reason is a "problem" with the kid. It could be that they are a large sibling group, were disrupted due to no fault of the child, or have a special need that you think is no big deal. From the kids I know who have been on photo listings, I know one who was on there due to being removed to an abusive pre-adoptive family, two who were disrupted due to changes in the potential adoptive family (illness and pregnancy), a few older minority males (most difficult to find placements for) with some baggage, a few with issues that I could potentially handle (learning / intellectual disabilities, manageable behaviors, etc.). And many who were on there due to legitimate issues that are outside my comfort zone (non-minor medical issues, sexual acting out, severe attachment issues, history of violence, etc.) So inquire, but know that there is a reason that the kids made it to the photo listings. Seek out the reason, and then decide if it's within your comfort zone. Ask tons of direct questions, and don't accept indirect answers.