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I am writing to warn you about a potentially dangerous birth father, Edward Poley, attempting to extort money for his recent new born. He recently backed out of an agreed open adoption through IAC after the birth parents refused to pay more money to him and then wait another month before he would sign surrenders. He has repeatedly requested more money in the final month, and even threatened to withdraw if the adoptive parents did pay up for groceries and a better hotel for his sister to watch his 8 other kids. The baby was born on Aug 24 at Atlanticare hospital (Jimmie Leeds Hwy). IAC never completed a background check of any type and did not warn the adoptive parents about his violent criminal past, including a pending murder case soon. He has 11 total children and is unemployed, taking more than $7000 in 2 months from the adoption. The home is infested with black mold. I strongly urge you to warn any prospective adoptive person about Edward Poley of Egg City Harbor.
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JamesFirst - I agree with Dickons that backing out of an adoption plan is not a crime. Every birth parent has the right to do that after the birth and can take as long as they want to sign TPR.Secondly, agencies do not do background checks on bparents and if they did, they would not be able to share it with you without the bparents permission. Background checks are part of the homestudy process only - on the PAPs to make sure the child will be adopted into a safe environment. They are not typically done on bparents. Bparents don't have to meet certain criteria to place their child.I also don't get how you would know so much about his "criminal past" or the state of his house. Thirdly, all money paid should go through the agency or attorney. Even in a potential open adoption, discussions of money, requests for money or denial should be handled by the agency - in this case IAC. I'm sure a moderator will be along soon - but in the past we haven't named bparents while making accusations unless there is proof, usually in the form of a law enforcement investigation that has been confirmed. This is to protect the forum from liability for slander. Typically, it's best to protect yourself by using best practices - for example, money goes through the agency, vet the agency, check for complaints against them, google for law cases involving their adoptions and not putting yourself in an overly vulnerable position by being involved in any conversations with potential bparents that could be considered coercive or that involve money or requests for money.
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I get that it is difficult when a parent chooses to parent rather than choosing adoption; emotions run high, what you expected to happen does not, and anger/ hurt can run away with people. However, as others have said, choosing to parent is still his right. Having a criminal background does not mean that someone is not allowed to parent and does not even mean that person can't be a good parent. Yes, additional requests for money can make it feel like you are just being used, but that isn't necessarily the case. Please remember that your words have consequences - for you, for the father who did not sign surrenders, for the potential adoptive parents (if that is not you), for the agency... Whether the PAP is you or someone you know, it does sound like you are hurting, and I'm sorry for that; I hope you can work past it, but postings like this are not the best way to do so.