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I've seen over the years so many discussions on what is so beautiful, to tacky, to dismissive - whether it is a meme or an adoption joke - like the picture of the twins and one is crying because he was just told he was adopted. Other themes are the parallels to animal adoption right through to the adopt a highway sign... What I tend to see more often is that the adoptive parents are far more vocal about hating any adoption type funny and love on all the super-sweet adoption sayings. Getting back to the funnies - they feel their child will be hurt... Which leads into the reason for the post... Intent vs Impact - is one part... AND What happens in a world where everyone is so super-sensitive that anything someone says is deemed offensive to someone else (yes, some things are completely valid to be offended to (racism, sexism)...and pretty soon we have an entire society that: A) feels the right to do anything they want without societal judgement... B) No one dares to even start a conversation about any topic because they are being RUDE and INSENSITIVE.... C) Without society weighing in with concerns to consider and converse about and find a common ground (what a lot of c words...) - what will society look like in a couple generations - good or dismal... is it a society that does not communicate on anything more serious than how beautiful those tulips are? And even then there is likely someone who finds tulips offensive because the bulbs are imported from Holland, and people should buy home made products... Which brings me to Intent vs. Impact - how do we find the middle ground, especially in regards to adoption. So, finally, were you raised to let the minor stuff roll off your shoulders because that's what your parents did? Does that serve you well today? Or were you raised that anything adoption related was sacrosanct, and you needed to be offended by even the use of the word REAL instead of biological? Were adoption funnies offensive? Did that reaction by your parents serve you well? (In respect to the serve you well - I mean overall in your general life vs just adoption specific areas...) Does any of that make sense? Are AP's too sensitive at times? Why? What areas do you think they should be more sensitive too and what they should just fluff off? Kind regards, Dickons
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I've seen over the years so many discussions on what is so beautiful, to tacky, to dismissive - whether it is a meme or an adoption joke - like the picture of the twins and one is crying because he was just told he was adopted. Other themes are the parallels to animal adoption right through to the adopt a highway sign... What I tend to see more often is that the adoptive parents are far more vocal about hating any adoption type funny and love on all the super-sweet adoption sayings. Getting back to the funnies - they feel their child will be hurt... Which leads into the reason for the post... Intent vs Impact - is one part... AND What happens in a world where everyone is so super-sensitive that anything someone says is deemed offensive to someone else (yes, some things are completely valid to be offended to (racism, sexism)...and pretty soon we have an entire society that: A) feels the right to do anything they want without societal judgement... B) No one dares to even start a conversation about any topic because they are being RUDE and INSENSITIVE.... C) Without society weighing in with concerns to consider and converse about and find a common ground (what a lot of c words...) - what will society look like in a couple generations - good or dismal... is it a society that does not communicate on anything more serious than how beautiful those tulips are? And even then there is likely someone who finds tulips offensive because the bulbs are imported from Holland, and people should buy home made products... Which brings me to Intent vs. Impact - how do we find the middle ground, especially in regards to adoption. So, finally, were you raised to let the minor stuff roll off your shoulders because that's what your parents did? Does that serve you well today? Or were you raised that anything adoption related was sacrosanct, and you needed to be offended by even the use of the word REAL instead of biological? Were adoption funnies offensive? Did that reaction by your parents serve you well? (In respect to the serve you well - I mean overall in your general life vs just adoption specific areas...) Does any of that make sense? Are AP's too sensitive at times? Why? What areas do you think they should be more sensitive too and what they should just fluff off? Kind regards, Dickons
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Dickons
I've seen over the years so many discussions on what is so beautiful, to tacky, to dismissive - whether it is a meme or an adoption joke - like the picture of the twins and one is crying because he was just told he was adopted. Other themes are the parallels to animal adoption right through to the adopt a highway sign... What I tend to see more often is that the adoptive parents are far more vocal about hating any adoption type funny and love on all the super-sweet adoption sayings. Getting back to the funnies - they feel their child will be hurt... Which leads into the reason for the post... Intent vs Impact - is one part... AND What happens in a world where everyone is so super-sensitive that anything someone says is deemed offensive to someone else (yes, some things are completely valid to be offended to (racism, sexism)...and pretty soon we have an entire society that: A) feels the right to do anything they want without societal judgement... B) No one dares to even start a conversation about any topic because they are being RUDE and INSENSITIVE.... C) Without society weighing in with concerns to consider and converse about and find a common ground (what a lot of c words...) - what will society look like in a couple generations - good or dismal... is it a society that does not communicate on anything more serious than how beautiful those tulips are? And even then there is likely someone who finds tulips offensive because the bulbs are imported from Holland, and people should buy home made products... Which brings me to Intent vs. Impact - how do we find the middle ground, especially in regards to adoption. So, finally, were you raised to let the minor stuff roll off your shoulders because that's what your parents did? Does that serve you well today? Or were you raised that anything adoption related was sacrosanct, and you needed to be offended by even the use of the word REAL instead of biological? Were adoption funnies offensive? Did that reaction by your parents serve you well? (In respect to the serve you well - I mean overall in your general life vs just adoption specific areas...) Does any of that make sense? Are AP's too sensitive at times? Why? What areas do you think they should be more sensitive too and what they should just fluff off? Kind regards, Dickons
Can't imagine how I'd make it thru life without the tough skin that my Dad helped me grow thru constant fun teasing and joking around, and the delicious comic relief I've found along the way. Can't even imagine what it must be like to not be able to take a joke or a little sarcasm with out getting bent or kicked in the mud. I can only imagine life could get pretty miserable. Jokes, etc.... laughter really is the best medicine for me. :woohoo:
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Can't imagine how I'd make it thru life without the tough skin that my Dad helped me grow thru constant fun teasing and joking around, and the delicious comic relief I've found along the way. Can't even imagine what it must be like to not be able to take a joke or a little sarcasm with out getting bent or kicked in the mud. I can only imagine life could get pretty miserable. Jokes, etc.... laughter really is the best medicine for me. :woohoo:
Jokes, etc.... laughter really is the best medicine for me.
Wasn't really back, just found a signal for my magic phone they made me bring, a place to recharge and was actually able/allowed to post to this site!!! which is a rare thing lately. Was happy just to sit with ya'll a while tho even if I can only read! Needed somewhere sane.... you know you can never get away from "it" even in the middle of a swamp. I am really back home at "work" today, but only for a bit, found a wrench in the plans... no surprise to me!. If it lets me post again I will tell my latest wrench story, but it's heavy so.... expect it to be told with humor. It's often the only way I can spit out the heavy stuff sometimes.
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alright them, getting lucky today. My heavy (probably offensive to many, especially here) humorous tale: I caught a baby. Can't find any other sensible words to tell it yet - still freaking out a bit:eek: still shaking LOL. I caught a baby. A brand new baby, straight out of the gate. In a shack, in the swamp, off the tracks near the river. I was the first face she saw (poor thing) And I did it all with a pot on my head. And yes, I am at my/our home now with mama and sweet baby and her GREAT GREAT GREAT Grandpa. (I never do this, but I can't help it, I can't quit singing her name) Josephina Annabella :wings: I'm sort of nervous about going back into the woods LOL no telling what else is out there!
BethVA62
alright them, getting lucky today. My heavy (probably offensive to many, especially here) humorous tale: I caught a baby. Can't find any other sensible words to tell it yet - still freaking out a bit:eek: still shaking LOL. I caught a baby. A brand new baby, straight out of the gate. In a shack, in the swamp, off the tracks near the river. I was the first face she saw (poor thing) And I did it all with a pot on my head. And yes, I am at my/our home now with mama and sweet baby and her GREAT GREAT GREAT Grandpa. (I never do this, but I can't help it, I can't quit singing her name) Josephina Annabella :wings: I'm sort of nervous about going back into the woods LOL no telling what else is out there!
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Belle, That's exactly what I have been saying every hour for a week now LOL Holy Cow I caught a baby! I thought of you Belle :) when mama was picking a name. All of our names are in there, mama's too. It would have been Annabelle (like her grandmothers name) but there was an Ella in our group... Jo says he is just glad she didn't name her Pothead, since that was the last thing she said before she had her "Lady, you have a pot on your head."
Dickons
HOLY COW!!! That's so amazing...and freaky...easier I think being the one doing the birthing part...than the catching... :woohoo: D